should i be jealous??

Question

i love my girlfriend and i trust her with everything but i know of a bunch of guys who want her. it realy pisses me off i mean knowing that guys who are like 12 yers older than her want her among other people in the age range of 10-27 (we are 16 btw). but i just wanna know is it right to be kinda jelous

Answer 1

In this situatuion, you should not be jealous at all. You should simply take this as a compliment that other men want what you have. This is a situation that will never stop and if you are jealous about this, you really need to get it together so she is not aware of what is going on in your mind. It is a sign that you are insecure because if you were confident with yourself you would not worry about other men looking at her. This will eventually cause problems between the two of you. She will sense your jealousy and take that as a lack of trust. Where there is no trust, there is no love.

I am speaking to you from experience. I fairly recently lost the love of my life because SHE was jealous. She always thought that because some other girls (younger and in her mind prettier than she was) wanted to be with me, I would eventually be so tempted by one of them that I would leave her. The fact was that I was truly in love with her and would have NEVER been unfaithful to her or leave her. I didn't care who looked at or wanted me, I was content with the woman that I had.

By the way, I think it is very mature of you that you are questioning your reaction of jealousy, seeking advice of others, and seem willing to reflect on your feelings/behavior. It is rare that a young man is able to do this. Jealousy is a monster and can kill an otherwise wonderful relationship. My advice is, if you really like this girl, just appreciate her in every way. Be a good man to her and give her no reason to doubt your intentions toward her. Give her trust, be willing to really listen to her, and resepct her boundaries especailly with sex. Beyond that, do things (genstures of kindness and be a gentleman) for her that most men don't even think of.

There are some situations where a little jealousy is normal and even a little healthy, but not so much that it shows a lack of trust. You should only be jealous enough to send the message: "I love you, want you, and don't want anyone else taking my place with you." Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

It's not wrong for you to be jealous, b/c you have every right to be jealous...other guys are trying to pry their way in on your girl, it's not cool. but there is a limit to being jealous...you don't want her to think that you can't trust her even tho you say you can...you might ruin your relationship by doing that. Just because other guys are looking, doesn't mean she's gonna run away with them...you're the one who has her heart, no one else can take that away from you! Make sure you tell yourself that! Good luck with everything & hope you feel better!

Answer 3

Stop being jealous.. if u trust ur gf and she's faithful to u.. then thats all thats important cause u know even if they try she'll say "sorry i have a bf".. and that will be the end of it.. stand proud and take it as a compliment that guys are envious of you for being with such a pretty girl.. but be confident in the fact that she is yours and they can try all they want, they can look all they want.. but she's your girl.. and they have to just eat their hearts out..

Remember this.. .. all those boys arent in the relationship with u, she is.. the only one that can be unfaithful or hurt u is her, so instead of worrying about them, u should only worry about how she feels about you.. they cant steal her from u, unless she wants to be stolen.. and they (the boys) arent the ones promising to be faithful to u, she is, and if u trust her, thats all u need...because if u believe in her, u believe she will dismiss their advances towards her.. so just be fladdered by their envy of you for having such a pretty girl..

Answer 4

Its human instinct to be jealous of other males looking at your girl. But don't worry about it too much because she is with you. And no way in hell I'm sure that anyone who is younger than you would have a chance with out there being trouble on her part and if anyone older tries something trouble on there part. So she is safe. So no worries if she is happy with you then cool. If not then do your best to be the guy she ever had.

Answer 5

Jealousy in small doses is normal and acceptable. Too much feels controling on the receiving end and too much can destroy a relationship. Best thing to do is just simply trust her. She is with you now. Enjoy the time you both share. Concentrate on yours and her relationship and let that other stuff go. To spend too much time on jealousy and all that takes time and creates unnecessary heartache. Just trust her until she gives you are reason not to be trusted. Be glad she is pretty, but she is yours. Good Luck!!

Answer 6

Don't let jealousy run your life, you're so young...She picked you, remember? that should be enough to make you feel like a million bucks. Instead of being jealous, when other guys look at her, and they will, just think to yourself: yeah I'm with her! he's not! Ha Ha!feel proud about it,don't ruin a good relationship by bringing jealousy, and always be the better man, that will give you so much inner power. Good luck!

Answer 7

Yes sir young man.. Jealousy and insecurities are demons in any relationship... When you find that true love it is even harder. How i deal with it is I think of how jealous every other man is of what I have. Makes me proud to be with her. But she has to lay the ground work to let you know she loves you and are her only one. So you can be secure in your relationship.

Answer 8

it sure is and it's disgusting how old men pray on young girls.. u don't have to let ur jealousy show though, cause that can be a huge turn off... just be secure w/ur relationship until she gives u reasons to think otherwise.. and for the older guys if they try to step to her or u then let them know they need to find someone their own age cause she's jailbate...

Answer 9

Get over it. Jealously will only make you look insecure and controlling. If she is WITH YOU by her choice, then you have NOTHING to be jealous about. But if you ACT that way, you may drive her away. Jealousy is never a winning move.

Answer 10

your young. Jealousy is not something that is good in a relationship.
My high school boyfriend was the same way...and he lost me. I ran right where he was hoping I wouldnt...because he said i would. I did it in spite, because i couldnt take the jealousy and wanted to get back at him for ruining our relationship with it.