My husband has lost his sprk in the bedroom all he wants to do is cuddle we both work and have 2 boys and we are really tired and usually are asleep before our heads hit the pillows, what are some ideas to bring the spark back to the bedroom?? Thanks For the help!
2006-09-15 12:54:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you need a Vacation, just you and him alone, or send the kids to Friends for the weekend, ans spend a relaxing weekend alone, take time to stop and get to know each other again champagne and strawberries, bubble baths, just relax in front of the T.V. and things will happen. I think that both of you are in burnout right now and you need to just stop and smell the roses and fall in love again! Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-15 16:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by stormy2u2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Asking the ladies for help ain't fair to us men.
First off let him know you still have a spark. Some times guys question when the spark is gone too. Nothing big just a dab of your perfume on his pillow will do. A slap on the ***, or passionate kiss when the kids are gone works perfectly.
Secondly be completely obvious about it. Just because you cuddle up next to him during the nightly news doesn't mean he'll get your point. Grab the bull by the horns if get what I mean.
Thirdly make the time, any way you can. For example, my wife called and told me she was out running errands when the car stalled out and asked if I could pick her up in the holiday inn parking lot. So I dropped what I was doing left work and went to go get her. When I got there the hood but she was gone. I called her cell and she told me to turn around. There she was in the hotel in a room waiting for me. Turned out the car was fine.
If you want it you both have got to work for it. and let him know that too.
2006-09-15 13:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by boter_99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would seem that there are several of us having this very issue :o) I'm really not sure what you could do to be honest. It's hard to say cause I don't know the two of you but you know what turns him on... so if it is really only him that has lost the spark try the things that turn him on and lead the way... but here's what i like.... get a babysitter when your husband gets home from work have candles burning and soft music playing don't say anything but take him by the hand into the bathroom where you give him a relaxing bubble bath washing every part of his body while looking deep into his eyes... he'll relax and maybe that will help :o) I also like sending flirty texts to him throughout the day... gets him in a playful mood before he even comes home or to call him and say a few things that I'd like to do... I've even taken pics of me wearing something sexy and sent them to him telling him this is what was waiting at home for him.... was a fun night. best of luck hun
2006-09-15 13:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by tabkat73 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It can be a great idea to simply let it go out - temporarily. I have found that imposing a mutually-agreed upon 'intercourse holiday' can work wonders. It takes the pressure off both of you if you agree to not have intercourse for, say, a month or six weeks. You aren't a failure as a partner if you decide to just relax and not make any demands upon each other for a certain period.
And you aren't a failure as a partner if you are simply too tired now and then to keep it up. No-one is going to be amorous day in and day out forever without needing a break. So perhaps agree not to make love for a certain time period, rest up, get lots of sleep, and when the ban is over, I'm pretty confident both of you will be very willing to get back to where you used to be sexually.
Good luck!
2006-09-15 12:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are suffering from burnout. You guys are too tired to have fun. Step one is to find a weekend when you can rest a little. Go for one of those get-away weekends at a nice place in town. Order room service. Sleep without an alrm one night. You will be having sex before Sunday morning.
2006-09-15 13:02:18 · answer #5 · answered by Isis 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make time for yourselves.
Find a babysitter for the weekend. Unplug the phone. Tell him you miss him, and want to spend some time alone.
Get some rest, both of you! Cuddle and sleep, together!
Sleep, cuddled up, then take baths or showers together. Have a nice, low-stress (carry-out or delivery) meal. Talk. Exchange backrubs or massages.
Start kissing...
Best of luck to you! :-))
2006-09-15 12:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by zen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey i dont think its that he lost his spark for you..... it just means hes comfortable men do that .. i know i was with one for 17 years then things ended...i have a new beau now im totally in love with him and he with me..... now we have a 2 year old and the lightning just dont strike as much it dont mean the passion isnt there....being tired is hard on the sex drive i know we work too... if you want to spice it up be creative and you light up that fire you once had... if hes cuddling you he still has a spark for you ... good luck hope things work out for you. p.s a spontainious blow j works wonders !!!!!! sorry for being so dramatic but to takem right there when they dont expect it does wonders !!!!!
2006-09-15 13:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by maureen a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are incredibly visual. Purchase a few of those baby doll nighties from Victoria's Secret. Surprise him one night after the kids are in bed. Wear the outfit with high heels. You (and he) won't be disappointed.
2006-09-15 12:58:46 · answer #8 · answered by mom2be 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you guys need some alone time.....try to get away kid free for 1 or 2 nights....we recently did that and it worked wonders when there were no distractions or responsibilitie other than to give each other some much deserved attention
2006-09-15 12:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by askaway 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
then don't do it in the bedroom , try to make love during the day or set your alarms a little earilyer so you have a little extra time in the morning :)
2006-09-15 12:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by littlepinklily03 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋