My girlfriend and I have a child. She is Christian and attends church regularly. I have an Evolutionary Anthropology degree and quite despise religion although I feel people have the right to believe and practice how they feel. I am not against my girlfriend raising my child Christian as the church does teach necessary morals. She can decide when she is older if she believes. However, my girlfriend says she will only move back to the city I live in (long story) if I regularly attend church with her. She wants have the social family aspect of church not necessarily convert me. I feel extremely uncomfortable and awkward at church. Is is right for her to make this demand? I feel it as not respecting my views and she should love me no matter what.
2006-09-15 12:46:07 · 6 answers · asked by Eduardo Comez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Actually, you will be willing to go -
I go because it makes my Mom happy. I can afford one hour in a week for my Mom, no problem.
My guess is that you will too for your child.
2006-09-15 12:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt to set a good example for your child (the openess to religion and other things not the christianity part). I think you should discuss more of how you feel when going to church. Also let her know that if someone asks how you feel about church and religion that you'll tell them (not be mean - just honest). And you need to know if she's OK with that. Also I were forced to attend I would not pretend to be religous. Yes I would go through the motions and be pleasant but I would not say "I love the lord" if personally called on. I think that you could possibly make an arrangement (meet half way) to attend at certain times or even just certain church groups. If the church is supposed to love you for who you are then they shouldn't have a problem with you attending groups or functions and not necessarily every Sunday.
2006-09-15 19:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kimber B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody has the right to force you to go to Church, including the mother of your child, I commend you on allowing your child to make her own decision on her faith, and at the same time you have to respect this woman's wishes also, with your degree, I am wondering if you would be interested in joining a men's group within her church, this way, you would be able to explore others viewpoints, and at the same time get to know some of the people at that church to where you would not feel so uncomfortable and awkward. She should respect your decision, if you really do not want to be involved within a Church, and she is a Christian, maybe you should remind her that her giving you an ultimatum is placing a judgment upon you and isn't right to begin with.
Regardless, Good Luck, Love your child, and God Bless.
2006-09-15 20:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not let anyone force you to attend church or join their religion if you don't want to. It's unfair of her to demand such a thing.
2006-09-15 19:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Should you be forced to attend church? HELL no. ;)
2006-09-15 23:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is not of one religion..worship him any way you want!!!
2006-09-15 19:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by redirishactress 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋