My husband left me three weeks ago because he can't deal with his mental illness and childhood abuse. I just relocated for his military career. Now he is going to file for divorce. I don't want one though. How can I fight it? How long will it drag out? How much money will that cost me? Thanks.
2006-09-15 12:31:31 · 6 answers · asked by Mrs. Waiting 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I'm not working. He has been abusive in the past. However, he could be ok if he got the help he needed. He's just to scared to face it.
2006-09-15 12:43:41 · update #1
Oh, he also leaves for deployment in a month. Would he have to be in court for this?
2006-09-15 12:44:56 · update #2
I am in Mississippi. Husband is active duty.
2006-09-16 04:51:44 · update #3
Are there any divorce lawyers out there? Yeah, WAY WAY too many!
Can you fight it, yes, but if he no longer wants to be married to you, you will just be prolonging your agony and delay the healing process. He will ultimately get the divorce anyway. In our area, with community propery and a child, the fee runs about 3500-4000 with a pretty cordial divorce. One option is when he files, you go to family court mediation which is a lot less money, but you trust one person to decide who gets what.
Uncontested divorce is 90 days from filing to final hearing. You can drag it out for years, if you chose the less pleasant path.
2006-09-15 12:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the state/country you are living in, marriage counseling may be required before divorce proceedings can commence. So he's moved out because he's got mental health issues--may be a good thing for you & your children--if you've got any. Try individual and family/marriage counseling first. If he won't go you should--it may help you deal with the changes you are going to face. As for how you can fight it--all you can do is drag your feet about getting things turned in to the court/lawyer--but if he wants a divorce, he can still get one even if you don't participate at all. It can drag out for years if you want it to and contest every thing he's asking for but it will cost you too much in money and sanity to be worth it. You'll wind up hating him and not being together anyway. Better and less expensive to try counseling first then just go with the flow and get divorced if that's what seems like the best option. Move on if you need to--there are other fish in the sea!
2006-09-15 19:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by tkltafoya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are divorce lawyers out there... and the answers to your questions depend entirely upon where it is that you live.
49 of the 50 states have no fault divorce (New York is the exception.) That means that trying to "fight it" - in 49 states - will be extremely difficult, if not impossible. In New York, it's possible, but expensive...and, please note that if your spouse establishes residence outside New York and complies with the laws of the state in which he resides, he can successfully sue for divorce in his state of residence.
How much money you spend on a divorce is almost entirely dependent upon two factors: how experienced/expensive an attorney you hire, and how much you fight over. The rule is that the more you battle over items that should be resolved outside of court, the more it ends up costing.
2006-09-16 01:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were married for 10 years or more, I think you get 1/2 of his retirement. You go girl!!! Never stay with someone that doesn't want you because someone out there wants you. Don't make the better man feel that you will never come into his life.
2006-09-15 19:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a very complicated situation,many factors will come into play .ask yourself these questions,Are you working , Is he abusive , or only wants a tender touch
2006-09-15 19:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by nick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
agree,but do not sign so he will be done for bigamy if he remarries. revenge is a dish worth serving cold
2006-09-15 19:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by quasar 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋