... so theres this ex-boyfriend, the first, who i was with for a long time. I loved him a lot but I broke up with him because of circumstances at the time. Since then, we kept in touch as friends for the past few years. Later, I find out he went behind my back and slept with a friend of mine in the years me and him were friends, which ended my friendship with him and her. We havent talked since. Recently, he called and apologized for what he did and says he did most of the bad things to me because he's been bitter about me breaking his heart. This makes me feel guilty... To apologize, hes taking me out... and possibly getting me a "sorry present"... should I get something for him cause I feel bad?
2006-09-15 11:56:24 · 12 answers · asked by b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would say no. No present for you, ex-boyfriend who ruined two of your friendships! That was wrong of your female friend who slept with your first even though you were not dating at the time. Ex-boyfriends are off limits, especially firsts! Unless you were truly over him and she talked to your first, that would be different. It was wrong of him knowing that his action would probably ruin your friendship with your female friend. Also it was like he was saying "I don't care to be your friend anymore" by sleeping with her. Just breaking up with someone if different than doing something that will purposely hurt someone. I'm not even sure I would want to have dinner with him, but if you still do... Take your free dinner and "sorry present". Say you are sorry you hurt him and didn't mean too... and run! Bye bye Ex-boyfriend.
2006-09-15 12:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by Su 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel you should? Cos, if you think you should thats the only way you should. It's your decision. But, if it were me, I'd stay stern, cos he did do something that make alot of problems at the time, right? When you found out he went and did the deed with your friend, did you cry? I just wouldn't.. but It's up to you.
2006-09-15 19:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly... I think you are a glutton for punishment.. cancel the date and make an appt. for a therapy session with a very good and reputable physcotherapist!!!
2006-09-15 19:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by someone s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! the guy sounds like a jerk and he's giving you a guilt trip, why would you want to get him a present?
2006-09-15 18:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, he's just horny. Steer clear or there is just more of the same in your future.
2006-09-15 19:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by clyde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should date him again or stop the present thing its soo materilistic maybe if you made somthing or do somthing he likes to do together would be better.
2006-09-15 18:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by a perfectly contradictory cat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ket him get u a gift first. then u can get him a gift later. he is the one appoligizing not u.
2006-09-15 18:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by punk girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not.
2006-09-15 19:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by mands 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some crabs if possible.
2006-09-15 19:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by Grist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't get him a present....... wait til you see where he is headed with all this......
2006-09-15 19:00:40 · answer #10 · answered by myheartisjames 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋