well me and my boyfriend just had our baby girl but he already has 2 other kids well the thing is his other baby~mamma doesnt let him see his other 2 kids for almost a year because she's mad cause he's moved on in his life now she decides that she wants to bring them back in the picture and just plays with him by bringing them into his life and then not letting him see them for months at a time she does this because she knows it hurts him i told him i was sick of her games and that it was either she lets him see them or she doesnt cause its bull she needs to start acting her age not her shoe size anyway i told him that if she kept on with her sh1t i would leave him do you think i'm right or am i wrong?
2006-09-15 11:55:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this is hard - i think that when you get involved with someone who has kids you need to be prepared on how the relationship is with his 'other' family. there's almost always drama and you need to figure out whether ur willing to deal with it or not. i think that it's good that you're putting your foot down, but to actually leave him might be extreme. maybe he can arrange visitation rights through court instead of letting that girl run him the way she is...? good luck. :)
2006-09-15 12:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Basically this is not your problem. Your bf needs to step up and stand up against her. If he pays child support,then there is no problem here as he should have gooten the state mandated visitation rights and now can have the courts enforce them. Now if he doesnt pay support then hes at her mercy and the law cant help. It sounds like his ex is using the kids as a pawn in trying to hurt him for their past and hes playing the childish games. But all in all hes the only one who should be standing up to her and not you. You can give him a choice; fix the problem or youre gone and dont give him a whole lotta time to do it. Good luck
2006-09-15 12:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So ... is your issue with her playing your man ... or that your man wants a connection with his other kids and the "EX" kinda comes attached ?
If he really wants to be a daddy and include his "Other Children" Be Supportive !! He needs to admit the children are his .... in court and seek his parental rights... then if she plays the game she can explain the mess to the judge for not allowing access to the kids ...However that comes with the expense of child support if he doesn't already kick in ...... If your mans worh the time and effort to bring a child into the world with (yours) try to act bigger than "Her shoe" and lay it out for him..... give him choices ... be supportive and don't play the game......... If you screw with peoples emotions (where kids are concerned) Be careful your carma dont run over your dogma ......
Be the adult... set the tone. Caring, informative and business like.
Good Luck
2006-09-15 12:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 01:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it and let him handle it. Although you are correct in the way that you feel about the situation. A more productive action you could take is to encourage him to go to court and sue for visitation or joint custody. Be sure that he continues to pay child support whether he sees them or not. They are still his children and require support.
2006-09-15 12:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it makes sence that you're mad and i don't blame you, but you have to understand that he loves his kids very much (which is a good thing) and it hurts him not to see them. to ask him to give up the hope of ever seeing his kids again is wrong, you're asking him to choose and both things are important (also, think about the poor little kids, without a father, even if you hate their mother, the kids are innocent). i think that if both of you put your heads together, you can find a way that'll left him see his kids and stop the kids' mother from doing that.
2006-09-15 12:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by ^-^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being fair. Of course it stresses you out, but her games are not his fault. If you care about the guy at all, try to be supportive instead of making things worse for him.
2006-09-15 12:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PERSONALLY I THINK YOU ARE WRONG. THIS MATTER WITH HIS CHILDREN HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. LET THE TWO OF THEM WORK IT OUT. WHEN YOUR MAN IS GOING THREW THINGS LIKE THIS HE DOES NOT NEED YOU TO LEAVE, HE NEEDS YOU TO STAY BY HIS SIDE AND GET HIM OVER THE HUMPS IN LIFE
2006-09-15 11:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is to the boyfriend.....run...run fast ....thats not fast enough....hurry get out now...............honey the last site of you would be in my rear view mirror.......what makes his ex or his kids any of your business. the truth is you dont want the first kids any where in the picture. well you should of thought of that before you opened YOUR legs.your not even married to this man. HOW DARE YOU...
2006-09-15 12:06:18 · answer #9 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is all part of being a grown up. Don't play games!!!
2006-09-15 11:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋