yesturday i slept by mistake leaving my 8 months baby breastfeeding ... hmmmmm she fell in the morning,, i found her on the floor ... she cried like crazy and had a bruise on her forhead ... its blue , she is acting normally and she is as sweet as allways .. only i hurt her, i let her down .. i should have protected my angel !!!! even though she is allright , but this is the first time i act irrisponsibly .. i will never forgive myself for that !!!! .... if anything happend to this child , i wouldnt be here today saying that .... i love her with all my heart .
2006-09-15 11:54:33 · 22 answers · asked by delayla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yes, getting married. wtf was I thinking?
2006-09-15 11:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by mikebrennan_us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin' don't be so hard on yourself! I know it is hard to accept that you actually put a bruise on your baby, or rather allowed her to be in the situation that gave her a bruise. You must have been seriously tired to not have felt her move around in your arms! If you have not already done so, a trip to the pediatricians office or at least a phone call to them would be a good idea to make positively sure baby is ok. Don't lie to them about how it happened, be up front and truthful. If you lie and the doc realizes it you will look guilty for something you have not done, and they will be more likely to think you injured her on purpose. is there someone else that could feed in the middle of the night, or when you are that tired? pump some milk and freeze it, then either you can feed her w/bottle or someone else can feed her w/bottle once in awhile. I know someone who is a good parent, and one day picked his 2 yr. old daughter up by one arm. Her elbow came out of socket, which meant an immediate trip to the emergency room. the doc there could not get it to go back in place, and put it in a sling for the night, sent them home and then to a pediatric orthopedic the next afternoon to have it put back in place. Nothing "bad," happened when they told docs how it happened, and it was a lesson learned the hard way. it broke his heart and he set w/ daughter in lap and cried w/her till mama could get the 2 of them to settle down enuf to get in vehicle for drive to hospital. Forgive yourself sweetie!!! mis-stakes are part of parenting. some larger than others, and some smaller than others, but they are all part of the job. God will forgive you for un-intentional mistakes, even when they put a visible mark on your child, and you should for give yourself also. Enjoy to the fullest your small miracle, and many blessings!!
2006-09-15 19:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by missouriaunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should have your baby checked out, sometimes it takes days for things to show up. Second, don't beat yourself up about this, when i was 20 i had my second child, she woke up one night and i brought her to the couch with me to feed her, after she was Fed i fell to sleep with her in my arms, the next morinng i awoke to find her on the floor, i was so upset, she was fine, but i wasn't. i thought i must be the worst mother in the world, i wasn't and neither are you, having a baby and looking after one is very tire ring, and there are not enough hours in the day for us to sleep , it seems. try to put it out of ur head. it will probably never happen again, i no it didn't with me. this may sound horriable to some people, that this even happened, but it did and my child is now 16 is just fine, and by the way, when i found her on the floor right by me she was sleeping! so u see it can happen to anyone, just make sure she is ok with the bruise on the head, have ur doctor check her out, and good luck
2006-09-15 19:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by trish p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I strongly believe there is alot to forgive yourself for , everybody makes mistakes even though you made a mistake by dropping your baby I strongly would say it was an accident you love your baby a whole lot and I can tell you really love your baby with all your heart .
2006-09-15 19:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by rayray17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I almost lost my 16yr son in a motor cycle accident last Dec. He was helicoptered to a hospital in Tulsa,Ok( 120 miles from home). There he spent over a week in childrens ICU and almost 2 weeks in a regular room. He has made a full recovery!
I knew when his friend got that motor cycle that I should have told him to stay off it. My only excuse for not doing so, is, it just slipped my mind. I have never forgave myself for not telling him to stay off it. I did promise myself that when it comes to my children, I will cover every base I can think of and not be distracted ever again. All we can do is our best, then hope for the best..............Take Care
2006-09-15 19:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by noname 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a new mom. This happens alot. When my son was a month old, his head got caught in his swing. I cried for hours. He was fine! He actually smiled when I was crying. Babies bones are made to handle these types of "injuries". Don't be so hard on yourself. You may need to put pillows around, or just get on the floor when napping. I nursed too, so I understand how draining it is...
2006-09-15 18:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all seriously i know how you feel you were tired and dozed off its not your fault it was an accident OK so please don't cut your self up and dwell on it just try and learn from it its plain as day you love your baby so its also plain you didn't mean to do it have a hug just to let you know your not alone {HUG}
second i used to have the problem were i would not speak up and just let people walk all over me as in oh you will baby sit i know you had planes to go out but you can cancel them just for me!! not any more and i cant forgive my self for letting my self get so low as to let others walk all over me.
2006-09-15 19:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by angelsrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't be the first mother to fall asleep while feeding her child.You need to just position yourself (when your really tired) so that if you do fall asleep she wont get hurt.You might also try setting a timer when your really tired.My first had colic really bad and I would sleep about two hrs. a night.It was horrible.
As for things I wont forgive myself for I have plenty.
2006-09-15 19:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should forgive yourself. Is a mistake. A big mistake but also you are telling you have a deep love for your baby.
2006-09-15 18:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by javi270270 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive yourself. Nobody can avoid hurt. Take more care of the angel.
2006-09-15 19:03:43 · answer #10 · answered by Billy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, why did u fall assleep?, was it becuz the baby kept u up all nite?, or just some thing to do, i've had kids and its hard to get proper sleep, but when ur feeding!, do something to stay awake.
she will be ok and you will be ok, ok, parents are not perfect, so dont beat yourself up.
2006-09-15 19:08:17 · answer #11 · answered by tim s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋