You mess up your marriage, and marry again. The second marriage is a disaster, but you have a child. Then your first spouse reappears, and you realize you may have another chance at true happiness. You are completely miserable, and that is no way to live, but what about the kid?
2006-09-15 11:45:28 · 16 answers · asked by Robert M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make sure that you understand why the two relationships failed. Then think about what has changed since the first divorce. Sometimes you find that you weren't ready for the relationship but later on you have learned enough to try again. BUT... make sure that you separate the two relationships. if you leave #2 make sure that you would do it regardless of #1 being in the picture. Don't wife swap. With regard to the child. Yes, you have to think very carefully about the child's needs, but I completely reject the idea that a bad marriage is better than a divorce. As a child I lived though both and I'd take the divorce anyday! Kids aren't stupid; respect full friends are better parents than bitter enemies.
2006-09-15 12:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by 0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child had no choice in this but is still here. Lets think about this. You married your first, because he was your true love and you believed in him enough to marry him and live happily ever after, but reality set in and wham... divorce court. Then you meet Mr. Right #2 and marry him believing hes the one to take you into a future of happiness and you two even have a child because of your love for each other and live happily ever after, but out of nowhere comes Mr Right #1 and turns your world upside down again. Now what makes you so sure that if you go back to #1 that the same thing wont happen again in time? It seems that you were miserable with this guy before and wheres the guarantee that you wont be miserable again. You have a child with #2 and are married to him and those both have to account for something. Its not having what you want but wanting what youve got. Put your energy into your present family instead of trying to destroy it and if nothing else think about your child. Good luck
2006-09-15 11:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all- most likely the relationship you had before, it didn't work right? so what makes u think it will work a second time! if it was true happiness why did u break up? the child should see its father if he treats he/she right, and really has nothing to do with the ex at this point. don't confuse your love life with your child's life untill you no what is going to happen.
2006-09-15 11:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by trish p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u are not happy in the second marriage u should let ur husband know how u feel and if its still a disaster than u leave your second husband and focus on what is positive in your life.
your first husband is back in the picture and you have a chance with the one u truly love than go with the one u truly love have a connection with have chemistry with and are truly happy
as long as the kid has a positive environment thats ok it wont harm the child just let the father visit anytime with the child
lastly if i a chance to get back the love of my life i would not hisitate i would love to have a second chance with the love of my life i would no doubt in my mind go for getting back the love of my life
2006-09-15 12:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think a child is a reason to stay with someone. If you really have another chance at true love, take it my friend. When the child gets older, they will understand. You don't want them to see you being miserable and think life's supposed to be like that.
2006-09-15 11:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would try to fix relationship with the person your with now and forget about the first one.sometimes we think we want the other person back when things go wrong in the relationship were in now.if all goes down hill stay single for awhile.focus on your child and yourself.then let your child no that mommy and daddy love each other and spend time with the kid together.who knows what the future holds.
2006-09-15 11:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not in quite the same situation.....but......before the man I loved went out of my life....I was a much better parent. I truley believe that a happy parent is a better parent. My kids noticed a difference in me once he was out of my life. Trust me-you being miserable is not better for your child.
2006-09-15 11:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by justhanginout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. You made marriage vows, and there is a child involved that is likely to be devastated by your choices. Maybe marriage counseling is in order.
2006-09-15 11:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by leahb1979 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you lost the love of your life and had the opportunity to get that person back, I would say DO IT! But you need to make sure that you have changed or are in the process of changing or working on what separated you in the first place. You need to remember how you made that person feel.
2006-09-15 11:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Waiting 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
love the existence you stay. i imagine that quote has quite some meaning in the back of it and its in reality saying that you need to love the existence you stay because you in basic terms have one possibility. and no count number what occurs in it. atleast you had the possibility to stay and hopefuly chuffed. so thats why love that one. yet both do fairly have deep meanings, and that i love both also.
2016-11-27 01:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by sharples 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋