We have been best friend since we meet when I was 13 and he was 14. My parents tried to stop me from being his friend when they found out he was bi a year later, but I made them change their mind, by saying I would runaway and they would never see me again if I could not be his friend.
Maybe that would of been for the best, to listen to them, because I realised three years ago when I was 15 I was in love with him. The past two weeks I have been distancing myself from him, but it hurts so bad. I think I would rather hang around him just as friends, but I cannot stand only being friends!
I love him so much, but I do not want to! I am not supposed to! How can I forget him?
2006-09-15 11:45:12 · 18 answers · asked by rene.lambert_1988 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm not quite sure why you want to forget him. If he's bisexual and you love him, why not try to be more than just friends?
2006-09-15 11:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never forget him. But time will help put things in perspective. I know this from first hand experience. You need to be strong and if you want to distance yourself from him then do it, but do it knowing that you do it by choice. Forget about the "what if's" and the "could be's" as they are not real and a distraction to you. Instead Focus on the reason that has caused you to make this choice and use that to draw strength from.
2006-09-15 12:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by God 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything that would make you remember him or remind you of him. It takes time and getting used to, just cut your mind off anything about him. Don't even keep any photos of him or the gift he bought for you. Once you've, done that, start to make yourself happy by surrounding yourself with what pleases you most. Take up a fresh hubby, write a book, stay longer on the internet, write a song, do house cleaning, go out with friends, do window shopping.. The lists of alternative and therapeutic activities are endless.
Don't allow your mind to think of or about him for a second before you kick him out of your imagination.
Imagine yourself banging the door at his face, always shut him out of your memory with immediate bang... and in reality he won't come back to rule your head.
2006-09-15 13:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by bluebell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone and are not loved in return, it hurts, I know. When I was in the lower VI I fell madly in love with someone who only wanted to be friends, and I could hardly stand it.
But time does heal. Twenty years on, she is my closest and dearest friend. We never did become lovers, but she has enriched my life. So don't forget him, just try - hard though it is - to accept the level of love he is prepared to offer, and return it. You can't make someone love you, alas.
2006-09-15 11:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Avondrow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I was in a very similar situation myself. Our parents did not want us to date, mine because they didn't accept that i am gay, and his because they had just found out. We started dating anyway and we have been going out for 2 years now and are both very happy. My parents are just starting to talk to him and vice versa, despite the fact he has been to my house so many times and me to his. I don't see why on earth you shouldn't have these feelings for him. You are allowed to be happy aswell. Listen to your heart.
2006-09-16 09:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to forget him?
If u value his friendship then stay friends with him...
but i dont see anything wrong with being more than just friends...
unless ur already thinking of the futur and are afraid that u wont be friends anymore once u break up....
2006-09-15 12:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by Velvet Rain Drops 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it!! Love only "is" when love is returned. And remember, men are like fish, there is another one waiting to nibble the bait.
2006-09-16 07:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by June smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so miserable attempting to suppress your true feelings. Perhaps you can't forget him, because it wasn't meant not to have him in your life. Speak with him, and try to be more than friends.
2006-09-15 11:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me. If you forget him because you're attracted to him. Another guy will come along that you'll like and it's either you don't act or act on your feelings.
2006-09-15 12:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Who cares about that ****? There's plenty of other fish (oops) in the sea!
2006-09-15 14:07:15 · answer #10 · answered by Ana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋