How do I tell her she's a total skank when we go out?

Question

I have been friends with this girl for a year now, and she just turned 21 a month ago.
She has a really nice husband and I don't think he gives her any reason to do this.
Everytime we go out together she is a complete embarrassment.
We'll just go to a regular bar and she'll sit on guy's laps and wrap her arms around them for no reason. One time she got threw on the floor by the guy.
She has taken her top completely OFF for a drink- and the guy didn't like what he saw so she didn't even get the drink.
She has thrown up on the dance floor.
But the worst was when she went home with some guy! She wouldn't let me stop her- and there was nothing I could do because she wasn't drunk- we had only been at the bar for 5 minutes! Then she told her hubby she spent the night at our house.
What do I do?

Answer 1

Tell her what she surely already knows, that she is an embarrassment to you and to herself and you will not be a party to it any longer. She is just using you as an excuse to get out of the house. Don't go in public with her, but make sure she knows why.





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Answer 2

Why are you continuing to go out with this person if her behaviour is embarrassing you so much? I'd quit having anything to do with her~END OF STORY!! I can tell you exactly why she is going out with you.... she needs an alibi!!! She is using YOU!!! If I were you, I'd cease having anything to do with this person at all... and you don't even have to tell her why... I think that is the best thing for you to do, as most often than not, people acting out like that have some serious wacked up mentality going on, and she is going to get deeper and deeper into her wild behaviour so long as she has you by her side, and then those that know the two of you are going to start judging you to be the same way because you are hanging out with her.... if you turn your back on her, she will either rise above what she is doing or sink so low she has no choice but rise above it (if she gets lucky enough that nothing really bad happens to her in the mean time)... and her hubby will find out all about it soon enough, u can tell him,, and if u don't he will figure it all out eventually and they may get a divorce one day because of it.. and you're gonna get dragged into it as a witness to rat out your friend, where you'll be forced to lie for her, and commit the crime of purgery.. or to tell the truth about it all... and when it happens, again... you're going to be judged by all who know to be the same way, and when that happens... it's a long time to live it down and make people believe you're not that way.... now read my source....

Answer 3

You need a new Freind! If i was out with someone who acted like that i would leave them there and go home. She is a big girl and she is not your problem. You are right she is a skank. I bet her husband would really like it if someone told him the truth about her. ai have told the husband of a friend that she was cheating on him and it was the best decision i ever made. He got remarried to a wonderful lady and has been happy ever since. She moved away and i have not seen her again. As far as she goes if i were you i would tell her no you do not want to go out with her cause she acts like a skank and you do not want to be seen with her. At that point my guess is she will be mad at you and go and do it anyway.

Answer 4

Well, she just turned 21, so did I. So i can see her being excited about going out and getting crazy and stuff. BUT, shes married, so thats just not right anymore. Maybe she shouldnt have gotten married so young, and maybe she realizes it. Whatever the case may be, if you consider her a real friend, try talking to her. Ask her whats going on at home. Why is she behaving the way she is? Maybe she just needs attention and someone to give her an ear.

Answer 5

Don't go anywhere with her. There are just some people that you can't be out in public with because they are socially inept, I've known em, and it sucks.

PS- You CANNOT be a scapegoat for this person, it'll come around and bite you in the rear if you do. With the way she acts she is looking to get arrested and then where are YOU left? Holding the bag.

Answer 6

easily why might want to you want to have pals like this at 12 in any case in basic terms tell her that as her chum you're anxious has she even had a era yet tell her she might want to nicely be pregnant or have an std (sexually transmitted ailment did they coach you sex ed?) im bowled over fairly it really is amazingly unhappy and if after telling her this if she would not care then you actually shouldn't both existence is to short to enable others drag you down if she spreads rumors tell her what a **** she fairly is and tell the college too after all save in concepts she obviousley would not care about herself and in case you dont prefer to be recommend bypass the perfect couple steps and overlook about her and do tell her mothers and fathers no count number what and tell them to take her to a doctor

Answer 7

This chick is a loser. There's a good chance she is an alcoholic too. She obviously needs some kind of help. But she has to want to change her behavior. Sounds like she doesn't care for anyone but herself. I'd quit hanging out with her if i were you. Someday somehow you will get caught up in her crap. You shouldn't be put in a position to lie for her. That's not a friend in most peoples book. Good luck!

Answer 8

why is it your job to tell her she's a "skank"?
Her sexuality, sexual behavior, or other behavior in general is not yours to patrol. She is probably very aware of her own actions so i don't think you need to tell her about her actions, especially not making a judgement call like "skank" Do i make any sense? She's a grown person. She can police her own activity.

What you can do is tell her you wont lie for her, that she cannot use your house as an excuse and expect you to back her up.
I've had to do this when friends have been in a pinch and volunteered me in a lie. i refuse to go with it. They stop using me to lie very quickly. I'm sorry you feel uncomfortable around your friend. You can only do something about your own actions though. Perhaps, stop hanging out with her?

Answer 9

Take off of some of person like that. This not your friend for sex
escapes to cover up. She needs get the earth don't go with her to the bar if you want to help her just talk - or disappear for good.

Answer 10

I think the best thing you should do is tell your friend in a nice way that you really care about her and you think she brings embarrassment to you remind her that she is married , I don't think you should tell her husband what she is doing and where she really was things could get a little worst .