I'm in my second year of College and just really found out, living with other people just isn't me. I need my own room and own space. I know it will cost more, but I just need my own room, so I'm going to stay where I'm at now and switch next year. I have no problem With being in the room with someone else as long as each of has our own room. He doesn't have to share his room with me and vice versa.
I am a only child and have never been used to roomming with others.
What do you think. should I just dorm for the rest of my college years or should I go and search for my own room.
2006-09-15 11:35:24 · 10 answers · asked by Raziel 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
If you could afford it, go for it. Im in the same situation, but my roommates and I actually get along and hang out, but living with others just sucks. Also if your gonna live on your own, are u gonna live off-campus or just go to a single dorm?
2006-09-15 13:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should look at is - your roomate. Is there a personality conflict between the two of you? or is it sharing that little space with someone else that bothers you? Dorm rooms arent usually more than the size of a shoebox. We have apartments here that are 4 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms that are connected to a large shared space. I have heard that they are like living in the dorms - expense wise and the fact that there are people to share costs. The rent for these are only about $211 a month plus food ( utlities are included.. You might look into this option. If it is a personality conflict maybe a change of roomates??? Some schools provide resident advisors with private rooms maybe look into applying for one of those positions?
Hope I helped at least a little
2006-09-15 18:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by gem753 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made the remark that, "I need my own room and own space." I understand you feel that way, but I assure you, there's much stronger evidence that folks can share space and be just fine.
It's socialization time. College is about challenges and learning new things (both inside and outside the classroom). Rooming with someone else is going to teach you some great lessons in personal boundaries, sharing, and managing conflict constructively. You're also likely to make some of your closest friendships in the process.
Save some money AND learn... there will be plenty of time for you to live on your own and in your own space after school.
2006-09-15 18:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by profJohn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some dorms have shared rooms, and some have suites (separate bedrooms with a shared living room/bath). Inquire about which are offered on your campus - with the overcrowding of most campuses these days you would be lucky to get your own bedroom.
If you can afford your own place without serious financial hardship, and you believe having a roommate will cause you serious mental stress, then you should get your own place.
They are pros and cons to both living alone and having a roommate or apartment-mate. Living alone fosters independence and resilience, but also introversion and loneliness; sharing a room or apartment promotes communication skills and an ability to compromise successfully, but may also lead to co-dependence and stress. Consider which skills you are most in need of, and which dangers you most want to avoid.
2006-09-15 18:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can sympathize with you. I had the same problem in college . the first year I was in a dorm with a roommate. Studying was hard. After that I ended up sharing a trailer one year and a large house for the rest. Both had separate bed rooms. It worked out great! Good Luck!
2006-09-15 18:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by rr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived in the dorms for two years. My first year was--overall--good, but I was also living with a friend of mine who had the same sleep schedule as I do. My second year was AWFUL. I went pot luck, and got screwed.
I never really liked living with someone else either. I now live in a studio apartment; just my cat, hamster, fish, and me. It is WONDERFUL. You also always know who to blame for the bills, which is nice. The only issue is paying rent, but I managed to find an expensive place.
I recommend trying living alone at least once. I have been loving it so far, and it gives you a sense of self you never had before.
2006-09-15 19:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE HEAVEN AND EARTH to get your own space. Roommates are a nightmare. If they are friends to start, they won't be at the end of the year.
At the very least, you need your own room, but you should even try to get a place all by yourself--depending on where you live, of course, because it might be too expensive where you are.
2006-09-15 19:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by retorik75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets say you do not have the resources to live alone and you had to live with another person, what is making the other person able to deal with living with another person?
How about later in life when you have to live in the same room as your spouse?
I feel like you should learn to deal with living with another person instead of solving the problem with money. There are circumstance that make it unbearable like your roomate farts every 10 minutes but refuses to open the window and that is understandable...but move in with another person then. Gotta learn to deal with other people.
2006-09-15 18:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by leikevy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on how your roommate attitude if u can withstand him for the next colledge years but if it is really affecting you.You should get out but i am not saying it will be easy but if i was you i will just ignore roomates or being dorman and stay in the dorm cause it will be less expense for you.
GOODLUCK.
2006-09-15 18:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by Trina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford it get your own room. If not, deal with the issues you have. That's called maturity.
2006-09-15 18:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋