2006-09-15 11:34:42 · 16 answers · asked by JJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It depends...how long have you been with him? Did he know your grandfather? I would tell him that it would mean a lot to you for him to be there, and find out the reason he doesn't want to go. It's not HIS grandfather's funeral, and funerals are no fun for anyone. He may feel weird being at a funeral of someone he doesn't know. I would ultimately respect his decision and not force him, but let him know you are disappointed.
Sorry about your grandfather.
2006-09-15 11:42:11 · answer #1 · answered by mamba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just cannot not handle funerals. Don't be worried by it, tell him its OK if he doesn't want to go to your grandfathers funeral, and take the pressure off him, because it doesn't mean he doesn't care. It is just the way some people react when it comes to funerals, my Mom is the same.
2006-09-15 12:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by Happy-as-can-be 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you react if your boyfriend was bugging you to go to his grandfathers funeral
2006-09-15 11:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jonathan I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't make him do anything he doesn't want to do. I would simply tell him that this is a hard thing for you and you need his support. Don't try to shame or guilt him into it, but do explain that it would mean very much to you to have him with you.
Then he has to make a choice whether or not to go. If he doesn't go, then I suppose you can make the choice as to whether you want to keep him for a boyfriend.
Funerals are uncomfortable and death is not an easy issue to deal with. So, I can understand why your bf might not want to go, especially if he hasn't had to go to many before, or at all. But there does come a time when we have to put aside our discomfort in order to be there for another person. Again, you can't make him go, but I hope that he does.
2006-09-15 11:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by milomax 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't like funerals. Don't
try to force him,he's your boyfriend
not your husband. Don't make a big deal.
out of it.
2006-09-15 11:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by trebor2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of it can be a reliable concern which you would be able to bypass. honestly, his grandma is going to be so preoccupied together with his loss of life that she could no longer be demanding approximately assembly a clean face. that could come at yet over lower back. yet, he could desire somebody. If he insists which you no longer bypass, then admire that, yet i could attempt tot alk to him somewhat greater and clarify which you merely choose to be respectful. The basket and card are an remarkable concept. it rather is going to teach him which you somewhat do care and then whilst his grandma does ultimately meet you, she would manage to remember how candy you have been to deliver that. i'm hoping you get to bypass!
2016-12-12 09:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by pfeifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether he had any relationship with your grandfather. If he knew him well, then I think it's rotten of him not to go. If he never knew him, then don't force the issue.
2006-09-15 12:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by mom2be 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a funeral not a social event, if he does not want to go, do not force him.
2006-09-15 11:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are not good with funerals it does not mean he doesn't care about you or your family.........or maybe it does.....talk to him
2006-09-15 12:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by Barry DaLive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
acknowledge that funerals make some people uncomfortable.
2006-09-15 11:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋