can any1 tell me how to increase my sex interest,i'm in real need of the ways?

Question

my husband has so much interest in having sex than i do....but i'm interested only few days in a month....how to increase my interest.

Answer 1

First you should be very happy that your husband as so much interest of want to have sex with you as much as he does. I don't like the would sex as much as I like to call it making love. My wife and I very seldom call it just sex we consider it making love. The key is making love together and enjoying each other as much as possible. 22 years now and we still make love as if we were just married.

Now for a couple of medical facts. Men need sex more than women. Men because have a cycle of 2 to 4 days and their minds tell them it is time to have sex. It is in all men just as women have their cycles every 28 days. I am telling you this so you can understand what is happening with your husband.

Women have a big push for like you said a few days per month. That is you clock telling you it is matting time. You cant stop it just like men cant stop theirs.

I feel you need to stop thinking of it as sex. Think of it as making love. Cuddle, hug, kiss, flirt and be more connected to each other. The heat will increase and you will want each other more. Don't just have sex make love and enjoy each other during that time.

Answer 2

Oh Boy.. yeah it happens. I plan a date night. A day that I can take care of me.. so that later I can take care of him. Planning for it is fun and the anticipation of the evening activities brings out an "interest". So maybe a bottle of bubbly, some candles,(maybe some finger foods that you can feed to each other) and yes, go on line to research on some Ladies Viagra as well. Special soothing lotions that provide a well.. to put it delicately.. a little zip back into your love interest.Have fun!

Answer 3

Well to tell you the truth my wife has the same problem but I have found that it really can be up to me. Women tend to be aroused by emotion primarily and physical second. You need to really think about whats turning you off instead of frustrating yourself with why you can't be in the mood. Talk to your husband too, by changing my own actions and trying to understand her needs better was all that was really needed but it takes both people for it to work and being aware will help your husband as well.

Answer 4

A mismatch can be a real problem for both of you with him starting to resent your declining him when he needs it & you dont.
Try new ideas, different times & places but please dont let things get boring (scuse the pun).
You dont say how long you've been together, reply here or mail/im me seperately, but dont go down the path i went a year ago & break up over it.

Answer 5

Ahhhhh when he is home but not in the room where the computer is turn the volume down and browse through some porn sites. download some of the 30 second clips and when your all hot try out what you have seen with the hubby

Answer 6

What's with all the "look at porn" responses. Most women just aren't into that. What is it that DOES turn you on? Candlelit dinners? Romantic movies? Whatever... do more of that and it will lead to what he wants too.

Answer 7

Try a little something on the side to spice it up

I volunteer

Answer 8

I would look at some pornography with him or without him and get turned on.

Answer 9

Talk to your doctor- your hormone levels may be low!

Answer 10

perhaps it is your sexual partner.... or sex has gotten boring.with your husband...try to do different things to spice it up.