My boyfriend is in a band, we also have a son together. I was just wondering how other girls cope with it.
I call the band "the other woman." It takes up a lot of his time. Several long practices in the week, going to record and then playing gigs. It's hard on me because I have to stay home and watch our son while he gets to go and do this and then of course there are the "groupies" that freak me out a little more.
Was just wondering if anyone has any anything to share about their situation or probably any words of wisdom on mine. Thanks.
2006-09-15 11:23:10 · 6 answers · asked by PrettyProblem 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh boy girl, do I feel your pain....I dealt with it for four years before I finally gave up. We didn't have any kids, which I'm sure makes the situation more complicated...but still it's hard no matter which way you slice it.
You are right, your man has "another woman". It never goes away. The band will always come first, especially if they are trying to "make it". It sucked for me too, because I loved him so much and we were so perfect together, I just could never get past not being number one in his life.
It's super frustrating and I hope you two can work it out. I can tell you do a better job of it than I did. I hope for your son's sake that your man spends quality time with him too.
Maybe you can try scheduling a "practice" time with him...like every Wednesday you are together as a family, just like Thursdays are practice nights....I don't know, maybe it will give you something to look forward to.
Be supportive, of course, but make sure he knows what your needs are and is willing to compromise the band every once in a while.
Good luck!!!
2006-09-15 11:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by mamba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never have started dating him, let alone had a son...Band members are not for jealous women. My husband is in three different bands, I support him fully and trust him 100%...if I didn't, I wouldn't have married him.
Honestly, you'd better get over it...find yourself a hobby and hop on the birth control so life doesn't get any harder. His practice nights are a blessing for me...I can work out or clean without him in the way or whatever I want...I look forward to them...I love being with him, but a night or two alone is a godsend sometimes. Him being gone, makes the rest of our nights together more special!
2006-09-15 11:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by rattgrrrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My man is not in a band but he is a dj. And im always with him if he does any gigs. I dont think you have anthing to worry about if you completely trust him. Maybe you should find a sitter one night and go with him and see what goes on....might make you feel better to know. You might not have anything to worry about.
2006-09-15 11:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get a sitter for the kid and go with him on his gigs,groupies are a pain in the butt but they are also the fans so be nice to them
2006-09-15 11:28:03 · answer #4 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he only got in a band in the first place so he could get laid all the time
that didnt answer ur question did it.
uhhh im trying to say its irony
2006-09-15 11:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by Oh, Natey-O! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him... these kind of guys are never serious... especially in their early days...
2006-09-15 11:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋