My sister and her husband found out she was pregnant three months ago, last night she mis-carried. What do you say to someone who does this? Sorry?.....
2006-09-15 11:03:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
She probably needs a hug more than words right now. But let her know that you are there for her any time she just wants to talk. It's fine to say you are sorry but don't make it worse by saying she can have another one or that God knew best. Those may be true but she doesn't want to hear that right now. She just needs to know you'll be there for her.
2006-09-15 11:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if there is anything you can do for her. It will all depend on how she deals with it. Everybody grieves in different ways. Some people need friends around them and others cope better doing it alone. Just be a good listener for her and let her know in time the pain will fade but in the meantime you will be there for her and whatever she needs, from a night out to take her mind off things to taking a phone call at 3am when she really needs to talk. Sometimes a hug can say more than words can... xx
2006-09-15 11:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A heartfelt sorry that you truly and deeply mean. Nothing can match the pain a mother feels at a lost child - even at three months pregnant. But she can recover quickly. Just say sorry when you are truly feeling and meaning it.
2006-09-15 11:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you love her and that you're sorry for her loss. Give her a big hug and tell her if she wants to talk about it you'll be there for her.
Don't say anything about it being god's plan or something heartless like that. I'm sure that you wouldn't anyway if you care enough to ask the proper thing to say. I think that its great that you are thinking about her during this difficult time.
2006-09-15 12:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by herdoula 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have miscarried before and it is really really hard to go through, because you have the post-partum depression and no baby to get you through it. Just say that you are there for her, and that some day she will be able to have a baby - and you will be by her side the whole time.
2006-09-15 11:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you and your situation. My sister miscarried in January and she still feels sad on occasion (i.e. when she sees development charts or baby clothes or pregnant ladies) I told her that i loved her, that i was sorry this happened to her, and that it was meant to be. Everything happens for a reason, whether it's clear or not.
2006-09-15 11:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by oleander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister who is 10 years younger than me had a still born baby at 38 weeks pregnant, she was 21 at them time... all i can say to you is be strong for her and be there for her, i had 3 healthy kids when she gave birth and she was angry with me cos i had had 3 kids without a hitch... just be her sister and be there when she needs to talk about it. hope she gets thru it good luck xxxxxx
2006-09-15 11:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by SALLY N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your sister she knows that you are there for her and that is all you can do sweetheart she knows your sorry and you care just be there when she is ready and what about you are you ok? seeing your sister in pain is hard for you and all who love her make sure you deal with your feelings too.
2006-09-15 11:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by a127babes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you love her and that you will be there for her. I had two miscarriages and everyone just told me to get over it. That is the worst thing to say. I hope things work out for her.
2006-09-15 11:36:44 · answer #9 · answered by Angel G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just that you love her and want to be there for her. Keep in contact and try to find ways to cheer her up and help her thru this hurtful area..
2006-09-15 11:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by Janis G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋