If you discovered that your partner had been lying to you about certain things, would you leave. He has told me quite a few lately but he is a good man (apart from the porky pies he tells!!!!) so what would you do??
2006-09-15 10:54:59 · 17 answers · asked by carolina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I guess it depends on what he was lying about. If it's something serious, then I'd get out of there. Relationships thrive on trust.
2006-09-15 10:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think this. You have found out a few things that he's lied about...but is there more things you haven't found out about yet? Some people live their lives lying and they can't stop. I hate to say it, but maybe try paying closer attention to what he's doing and see if you can catch him in a lie. I hate to say "keeps tabs" on him, but I always think you should make drastic decisions like this after educating yourself as much as possible. If you really wanted the truth you could find it out.
2006-09-15 17:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the most important component in a relationship. Talk straight to him and tell him that you require honesty if he wants a relationship with you and give examples of what you specifically want. You do deserve someone who will respect and love you enough to make you number one. If he can't respect and meet your requirements then he does not deserve you. Dis-honesty is a character flaw and is really the tip of the iceberg. If you have a future you need to get the truth out. You deserve the best especially if you have integrity.
Don't settle for second best.
2006-09-15 18:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by handsomeworshipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends what he is lying to you about..like if it's serious things or retarded things. But, you have to keep in mind, if he would lie about retarded things he would serious things as well. If you really care about him try and talk to him, everyone deserves a second chance. However, I believe if he continues to lie you are best to leave him because eventually you will not be able to trust anything he says. Good luck..
2006-09-15 18:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by Dink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is not a recurring thing then i would talk to him and tell him how u feel try to work it out. try to get him to express his feelings and talk to u about y he feels like he cant tell u the truth. And hopefully u 2 can resolve ur issues but if he is not the type that like to work out relationship issues through language than u hav to make the decision to stay or leave good luck.
2006-09-15 18:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if he's lying about stupid things that don't really harm anything then work it out, if he's lying on about things that really affects your life in a bad way then leave, get it over with.
2006-09-15 17:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like most of the other answers, I would talk to him. If he's not being honest with you, and isn't interested in changing that, then it's up to you to decide if it's something you can live with. If not, then tell him so. If you can, then forget it. But I'd caution you, if he lies now, and you accept it, then be prepared for a life of lies.
2006-09-15 17:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes him good? Is he truly a liar? Are the lies significant to the relationship? Little holes can burst big dams. So don't make ANY assumptions. Determine the truth, before you act.
2006-09-15 17:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would depend on the type of lie and if it really made a difference in your relationship. Everyone lies, whether it be to a parent or bill collector or your boss...lol....If you feel they are pretty big and hurtful to you then you need to leave him.
2006-09-15 17:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you could answer that depends on how serious the lies are and if you love he deeply if they just little white lies then maybe brush them away if they a bit more serious talk to him, you need to follow your heart really nobody can make your mind up for you good luck
2006-09-15 17:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋