Last night my lady and I went over to our friends house to plan her girlfriends birthday party.. This friend drank a bottle of wine herself and proceeded to grab my *** (little more than that) My girl wasn’t looking, Last time we were around her she bit my neck.. Then as were leaving she was taking off her shorts showing me her a$$. She does this when ever my girlfriend turns her head. We are all lesbians and I told my lady what our friend did. My lady said she was just drunk, don’t worry. I don’t care if she was drunk or not, she is being disrespectful to me. And if her girlfriend found out they would be fighting like mad.. She called my lady today and acted like what happened last night, My lady told her.. Then she called me to apologize, I told her she drinks too much and I don’t like how she acts.
Should I tell her girlfriend? Or what if her girlfriend finds out later and I didn’t say anything?
2006-09-15 10:46:03 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
She is one of the big group of women we hang out with. Plus they live a cross the street from us... I'm not attracted to her at all...
2006-09-15 10:49:59 · update #1
I think the attractive part came from-- she pays me attension and I pay her none. This I think has become a game for her. I'm butch and her girlfriend is butch.. She sits there and tells me to do things for her or she is bossy and I tell her to back off. My lady is the only one to be bossy with me... SO I think its a game for her now.. She must be clueless my lady is hot.... All of our friends know my woman is the apple in my eye... If ya know what I mean
2006-09-15 11:08:15 · update #2
Great question. I had a similar situation happen, but it was a friend of our's who showed my boyfriend his ****. I thought only gay guys pulled stuff like that. She is not being disrespectful to you, by the way, she is being disrespectful to your relationship with your lady and to her lady as well.
If she called to apologize, I would credit her for that. I wouldn't tell her girlfriend because you're putting a thorn in their relationship and that is none of your business as long as you keep your hands to yourself. And if her girlfriend finds out later, you should just say that it was not your business to say anything that would destroy their relationship and you didn't want to interfere. I guess I didn't say anything the other posters already said, but I had to put in my two cents.
2006-09-15 11:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well girl, I believed you liked it! Reason being you didn't put her in her place with the first incident. You said she would do things when your girlfriend would turn her head, I'm wondering why you didn't tell your girlfriend then? I believe she has a thing for you because if i where to get drunk around friends i can assure you that i wouldn't be grabbing my friends asses! And whats up with your girlfriend, i can't understand why she didn't get upset! Do you think that when you turned your head that this chick was showing her *** to your girlfriend? Hope things work out for you, good luck!
2006-09-15 16:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by fairyjin1971 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she makes you feel uncomfortable then you might need to keep you distance. I would be very angry if a man or woman acted like that, that is so rude , disrepectful not only to you but to everyone involved. It doesn't matter if you are drunk or not & if you can't handle yourself when you are drinking then you have no business on having alcohol. You have a very difficult choice to make, either you don't say anything and deal with the behavior, or stay away from the drunk. Telling her girlfriend might back fire on you, she might not believe you , or might accuse you of coming on to the drunk. So that's a risk you might take. I guess I would chose to stay away .... and if you have to be around her and you see that's she's drinking to much, then excuse yourself and go home.
2006-09-15 10:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by Bec 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had a school buddy that went to a certain zoo where he loved to taunt the lions by leaning over the rails and eating a sandwich. One day he was clowning like that for a friend with a camera (who, unfortunately was so startled he didn't catch it on film) when the lion took a running jump and took a full-claw swipe at him and his lunch. The lion missed but my school chum almost messed his pants it was so close.
Friend, you are on the edge of a real cat fight, so be careful and keep your distance as much as is humanly possible. I would stay like glue with your partner and always try to shift to the other side for whatever excuse or reason. Wow, is the fur going to fly there if things don't somehow change.
2006-09-15 11:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ooh, I can't stand when females play games like that! It irks my nerves horribly! Simply tell her that if she doesn't cool her jets, you won't be hanging out with them as a group anymore. Or, if that's not possibly, stay away from her as much as possible. If you all go out as a group, stay close to your lady, and should you two have to part for even a moment, just ignore this other chick. If she tries to "show" you something, or engage you in some kind of sexual conversation while you're girl isn't looking, simply walk away. Sooner or later, she'll either get the message or get caught. Her choice.
2006-09-15 11:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you needn't tell her girlfriend. It doesn't sound like you are all that close, just thrown together my circumstances. What's between you and your girlfriend, and this other girl stays there. If she's got issues with her girlfriend, they need to work it out without anybody else. If she drinks too much and gets crazy, her girlfriend already knows that.
And what does the fact you're not attracted to her have to do with anything? If you were attracted to her, it would be okay for her to get drunk and come on to you? Come on!
2006-09-15 11:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by michael941260 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well to answer your question, I would suggest NOT telling her girlfriend because it will cause so much trouble and who's to say she's going to believe you over her girlfriend. Like what everybody said already, stay away from her drunk or not, but still be cordial when you are in the same room.
2006-09-15 11:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, that's a tough one. Is that the only time she has acted like that? I know it's not an excuse but it probbily was the alcohol, but you are right, it was disrespectful. you need to let her know that it will never be tolerated again.
I wouldn't tell the girlfriend as long as it doesn't happen again, she did apologize. Forgive and forget...but if it happens again,or you see her doing it to someone else then you should fess up.
Good luck
Blessed Be!
2006-09-15 10:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I just discussed this with my girlfriend and she and I think the same. First, discuss what you decide on doing with your girlfriend so there are no surprises in their friendship. THEN you should tell the girl that was hitting on you that you feel if it really was just her drinking that she should tell her girlfriend what happened just to cover all bases and to keep everything out in the open. End this conversation with a "and I hate to say this, but if you can't tell her, I really have to so we're all on the same page and there are no secrets between any of us." If she respects her girlfriend, she should understand.
2006-09-15 10:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by guaca_lamoly 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This kind of thing is typical when people drink all the time...
Try going to a movie next time (without the alcohol).
If you can't have a dinner or movie without drinking then I'd say it's time for the smart ones out of all of you to get to a 12-step meeting.
2006-09-15 11:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by rabble rouser 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋