my son has seen his father before since he was 2 and he done forgot about him since birth we hadnot been together and he wasnt ther for him so i left him alone and my husband of 20 years ben dad to him all along till now and i just want him to know his real father he has all his features and attitude and i have to find him but tis wiuld think its to late and all this time
2006-09-15 10:39:47 · 21 answers · asked by mcgloson@sbcglobal.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
-Never too late! He should get to know his father. As long as his father, and your son feel comfortable with it. Than it's wonderful thing.
2006-09-15 10:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by IMHO 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your son is 20 he should already have a preety good idea if HE wants to or not. If your son does than go for it but if he dosent, I wouldnt force the issue. What if the father is a complete dissappointment compared to what your son expects or worse-what if dad is everything your son has always wanted and he blames or resents you for holding that back away from him.
Is your husband supportive of this? Does he feel all his efforts over the years might get tossed out the window with a new "Father Figure" on the scene?
Basiclly what I am trying to say is there is SOOOOO many things to account for that it cannot be your choice only. There are too many feelings at stake.
2006-09-15 10:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is ever too late for someone to get to know their biological parents. My father was taken from me at the age of 11 by a drunk driver. I would give anything to be with my father again. I have a step-dad for 20 years, but it isn't the same. I love my step-dad like a real father and no one could replace him, but there is still that missing hole in my heart and I can never fill that void. Talk to your son, see if he wants to get to know him or meet him. He has a right to know, if not let it go, but if he does, support, help and love him all the way through. Good Luck!
2006-09-15 10:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by sea shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man that raised your son is his real father. Now the other guy is his biological father. The man that raised your son deserves that much respect. Ok, If your son wants to get to know him then he should make contact with him. Then who's to say his biological father wants the same. Theres an old saying be careful what you wish for because you just might get it. I guess what I'm trying to say is if he had nothing to do with him for this long then don't expect to much from him now....Good Luck
2006-09-15 11:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by noname 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would be up to your son and his bio father. You really have no more say in it. Find out where his dad is and give him the information let him follow up if he wants to. I have not seen my bio dad since I was 8 and do not feel any great loss in my life my "father" has taken great care of my since I was around 5 and I do not miss out on anything. when I contacted my Bio dad he wanted me to address him as dad and that will never happen. The only thing I want from him is my medical history other than that if he wants to see me again he has to make the first move since he was the one who walked away from me.
2006-09-15 10:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your son asking to meet his father? If not, you should wait until he brings up the subject. He may not be ready for this right now, and it could blow up in your face.
2006-09-15 10:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to discuss this first with your son. If he displays interest then both of you can work searching for his missing father.
There's no such a thing as "too late", if he agrees.
2006-09-15 10:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by tangerine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its never too late,im 35 yrs old now and never know that the dad who raised me is not my real dad,until i stumble upon a piece of paper about my real dad,good for my the dad who raised me explained to me about there problems before and help me at the same time to find my real dad,furtunately we found my real dad and was able to get to know him before he passed away
2006-09-15 10:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never to late. But your son must be the one that wants to do this not you. Make sure it is not you that wants to see him!
2006-09-15 10:48:33 · answer #9 · answered by womanofthefire80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No; The boy has the right to know his bio dad.
You should tell him, and help him find him IF HE WANTS to.
If he's OK with not finding him, then forget about it
2006-09-15 10:44:47 · answer #10 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋