the guy ive been dating for 5 weeks, he has not tried to have sex with me. he just got out of prison 3months ago, there are rumors that he is gay, do you think it is a chance he might be, because i just can't see someone as fine as he being gay, help me please
2006-09-15 10:37:19 · 37 answers · asked by jewels 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
i think you should ask him. How can we possibly know the answer to this? Just have a good chat about the subject. If you want to have sex with him in the future, opening up about stuff wouldnt hurt anyway.
2006-09-15 10:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by twinsisterwendy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A.) Just because he is 'fine' DOSE NOT mean he is not gay! Don't kid yourself on that one sista. B.) You don't wanna know what goes on behind prison doors. Even the straightest men can do what they need to do when having no other opportunities.
With that said, there a multitude of reasons that he may not be trying to get in your pants. Maybe he REALLY REALLY Likes you and is afraid if he doesn't preform well you might dump him. How long was he in prison? Likely he is a little messed up in his head and isn't sure of how to behave in certain situations.
I recommend that you Talk to him! Be open, honest and to the point. Give him room to answer, make him comfortable - do not laugh at anything he says!! Think of where he has been - alone in his own mind, afraid and alone for a long time. Im assuming that at this point he is working hard to turn his life around - mounting his stress level. Him taking a chance on you is MUCH more scary for him than it is for you to take a chance on him.
2006-09-15 10:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay? No. Shy reserved, respectfull, serious long term type.
perhaps seeking and evaluating a possible mate to settle down
with and go straight. At least you can hope so. You can try to
draw him out with questions in a very indirect way, little clues
will afford some evidence of his thinking. So far you really don"t
know much about him, other than he had not tried sex. You
should respect that, and men respect that in women and usually
marry them
2006-09-15 11:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by Edward D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him. If you 2 are serious about each other you guys should be able to talk to each other about anything. Remember communication plays a big part in a relationship. Sex is also an important part of a relationship, but are willing to give it up for somebody that you can't talk to. I've been happily married for 14 years and I talk to my hubby as offend as possible. If you guys can't talk to each other, and be honest about what you talk about then it ain't worth going any further. But this is just my opinion you can take it or leave it.
2006-09-15 10:52:51 · answer #4 · answered by missyld3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if he was gay he wouldn't be dating you he'd be dating a guy. Believe it or not there are still decent men in this world who don't just try to jump in the sac. Alot of them are too scared to make that move and then there are some that want to wait until they are sure the relationship is going somewhere. I think you should talk to him about it if it's really that important to you. He is the only one who can answer that question honestly, not any one on here.
2006-09-15 10:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just because he hasn't tried to have sex with you doesn't mean he's gay. I'm not saying he isn't, because he might be. But he also may be a slow mover who just doesn't try to have sex right away. Or maybe he believes in waiting till he's married. Why don't you just ask him?
2006-09-15 10:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by ask the eightball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't think he's actually being a gentleman do you? Either that or the hard time he's had in prison is more on his mind than sex? Try talking. It's the basis for a good relationship.
2006-09-15 10:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by claire 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are very naive to the world. Your statement, "i just can't see someone as fine as he being gay" is the most ignorant thing I've heard in a long time.
Do you think all gay people are ugly??? You REALLY need to worry less about getting some sex and more about how ignorant you are to our world. Go out there and EDUCATE yourself before you try procreating.
Please tell me you at least can spot Canada on a map.....yeah there are people that stupid out there.
2006-09-15 10:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Why even date a guy who just got out of prison?
2006-09-15 10:46:37 · answer #9 · answered by kathy o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang, if waiting five weeks makes you gay, I must be sooooo gay. Strange, I never even knew it!
Hold on, I'd best tell my girlfriend. It'll come as a complete surprise to her, but I'm sure she'd want to know.
2006-09-15 10:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋