I have a cyst on an ovary - it was discoverd a few months ago, I am taking medicine for it currently.
If it gets any worse, i'm to go in for surgery....
Sex started getting more and more painful with my husband.
We both were very very active together, it was a literally daily thing.
Anyhow, because its been hurting so much - we have not had intercourse in about a month and a half.
I give my husband oral sex just about every day - so he is not being neglected. BUT...that is getting old, for BOTH of us.
I dont mind doing that - I just know he wants, and misses more.
Surgery wont be scheduled until at least December -
What can I do unitl then?
Honestly - I would have no problem "finding" him someone just for the intercourse part - it would not change our love for each other.
BUT...I hate the idea of oral sex only for the next few months - and anything anal is out of the question for me.
What to do?
2006-09-15 10:24:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i mean I know you say anal is out- but it's really something ya'll should maybe think about. If you're really turned on and with some lubrication- and gentleness- it could fair well. If he's really large- then no. He doesnt' have to put it all in- I mean I dont' want to get graphic but men are pleased by the simpliest of things. Just the tip ya'll could try. There is also use of the breasts-- but this usually leads to him by the mouth resulting in the very thing you are tired of. Ya'll could try phone sex as well. BUT DO NOT LEND OUT YOUR MAN TO NOBODY. DON'T CREATE THAT MONSTER-AT ALL
2006-09-15 10:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by prettyat23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well is he complaining or are you just making rationalizations for you both, Have you guys even talked about what you guys are going through. you never know, maybe he likes getting the BJ every day.
what i don't get is if your marriage is based on just sex, if it is then im sorry it might not last especially when you decide that you want to get another woman to have sex with your husband until you are ready to,(which i think is just sick). have you asked your self about the disadvantages that comes with having your husband sleep with another woman, he could fall in love with her and the next thing you hear is that he can't be with you anymore, oh and what if you have the surgery and he prefers sex with the other woman more that he does with you. i know you are going through alot and i hope you get better, but you are going about this the wrong way, and i understand u love your husband and want to make him happy, but does it have to be at your own expense.
i would suggest using this time before the surgery to re-affirm your love, go on dates, talk to each other, and make a real connection that is not based solely on sex, you guys should fall in love over again.
just don't go find another woman for your husband just for sex, it is so wrong on so much levels and your vows were based on for better for worse and the sex thing really shouldn't matter, if he loves you then he would stand by u and not be all about sex.
i hope this helps, and maybe ask a doctor for more ideas on the sex thing,
2006-09-15 10:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by lilykiss8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding someone for him won't be a problem for you? You're wrong. It will turn into a big problem. I love sex also and would like it everyday but if this was happening to my wife I would bear with it & wait. Don't give him oral everyday. Maybe once or twice a week then he won't get bored with it. Plus it's not fair to you, you get nothing?
2006-09-15 10:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by jepa8196 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe attend a pleasure party. They make all sorts of things that you could use on your husband.. Good Luck.
Ooh also, I do not suggest bringing someone else into the relationship. It may seem harmless... But you never know.. Never say never.
2006-09-15 10:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet96 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get someone else....I repeat....Don't enter someone else in your relationship. You say it may not change things, but you don't know that; neither does he. There has to be something your doctor can advise you to do for less painful intercourse. Talk with him/her about it. And oral may be what you have to settle for.
2006-09-15 10:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can live off sex for some time when you love someone enough to understand their problem. If he can't understand your problem and live without sex, then I'm afraid he doesn't love you. Or you could place yourself at his place and think what would you do if you were him?
2006-09-15 10:32:52 · answer #6 · answered by Harry thePotter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing that comes to mind is to start him off, get him close to finishing, and then , if this possible, to only parshally enter you to climax. is it only deep penitration that hurts, or any? also, you on top, that way you can control what your feeling.
2006-09-15 10:33:00 · answer #7 · answered by puertoricanhusker85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound "un-screwed"...
Sorry to hear of your condition. But ......if I couldn't use my unit for a period of time ..........there's just NO WAY I could allow my woman to have sex with another guy for "filler" ( no pun intended ).
2006-09-15 10:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Feelgood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to a bar pick up some hot babes
2006-09-15 10:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by jercha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just put it in half ways. Whatever you do do not let him pork someone else thats just stupid
2006-09-15 11:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by skhoury28nails 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋