Do you know any good places to go? Any good free areas to meet people? Any good stories about good or bad experiences? I will show her your answers when she gets home. I will give it a try? Use to do 3-somes with girlfriend but wanted to hear others experiences.
2006-09-15 10:22:39 · 22 answers · asked by CTM 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is the wrong place for this kind of question. You'll do better on one of the forums for swingers.
2006-09-15 10:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dave 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The Hedo line of resorts are very sexually open. They are not "swingers resorts", but nudity is allowed and therefore there are lots of open-minded people and sexy happenings.
Before you take the leap though, be sure it is something you both want to do. You can't just take your wife to such a place and expect her to go along with it if she doesn't want to do it. A good answer from The Swingers Board:
"This is probably one of the most common questions we see on the message board. Basically, you DON'T CONVINCE your partner to swing. Swinging is not for everyone, and it might not be for you and your partner. Before you think about trying to convince your partner to swing you should first look at yourself and examine the reasons you wish to swing. Are you wanting to swing so that you can "get more action", if so, then don't bother. This is not the lifestyle for you. If, however, you want to swing because you want to help your partner live out fantasies while living out your own, or because you want to share the most special part of your life (your partner) with others, then you can start looking at how to talk to your partner about swinging. You may not even need to convince your partner. They may already be more than willing, all you have to do is let them know that you are. On the other hand, they may not have ever thought about it. Communication is the key to opening all of the doors here. The first thing you need to do is talk to them about your fantasies, perhaps leave a swinger mag lying around for them to find to stimulate a conversation, or have them look through Swingers Board with you. Be open to any questions that they may bring up and be prepared to answer why you want to do this. If your partner lets you know that they have no interest in the lifestyle, then back off. Pushing them will get you nowhere. However, you can mention your fantasies to them, if you can get your partner turned on to your fantasies then you will have a much better chance of opening the lines of communication again and the chances of taking things further will increase."
My wife and I have been swinging for several years now and it's been a fantastic journey. We have allot of fun and we are closer now then ever. We had a very good relationship before and it is even better now.
Sit down with your wife and read The Swingers Board together to get allot of good information and have your questions asked.
2006-09-17 18:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth you and/or your wife want to have sex with other people (which by the way, is breaking your marriage vows) and you want to give it this 'swinging' label to somehow justify it and make it ok. Can you really deal with the after effects though? Can you really deal with her having been with someone else...are you sure she can really deal with you being with someone else? You may only perform the actual acts on vacation but the repercussions of it will go right back home with you. Its crossing a dangerous line, one that can never be put back once its gone. I know that if I thought anything of my husband or my marriage I wouldn't even think about this let alone actually do it. I mean really what does this say about the state of your relationship?
2006-09-15 17:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The best "vacations for swingers" by far is Hedonism III in the Carribean. But, if you are looking for "local" places to "cruise" for swingers.....try joining "NASCA," www.swingersboard.com or visiting www.adultfriendfinders.com. I have found these to be extremely helpful, inciteful and basically a "no pressure" atmosphere.....My partner and I have been in this lifestyle for years now....Good luck to you and your wife. Also, remember this must be agreeable to the both of you....or else trouble will abound in paradise!!!
2006-09-15 17:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by westernstargal 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to watch that new show on TV called WE. About many married couples. I was very impressed. 65% were Laywers, Doctors, Nurses, well educated people who swing. Well good luck.
Just wanted to let you know its not all about sex.
2006-09-15 17:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful... Im all for 3 somes and little orgies and what not... But its dangerous... Your taking a huge risk... Unless your marriage is buttoned up almost perfectly (which, not many are these days....) this could lead to other @!#*... One of you will continue w/o the others knowing... Take it from me, Im goin through it...
2006-09-15 17:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by Joshie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand the whole thing about swinging, why get married if you/she feels the need to be with other people. So you just want to disrepect your marriage vows all for piece of A**
2006-09-15 17:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wrong place for this sort of question. Go to swingers' sites if that's your bag. The thought of this is disgusting to me, but I guess to each his own.
2006-09-15 18:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hedonism in Jamaica is a place that warrants additional investigation.
2006-09-15 17:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by BusinessGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree it is tacky and in bad taste. This country has gone to crap, Whatever happened to nobility, Loyalty, Monogamy? What are our children going to learn from us? Mommy and daddy are married but its OK to screw around with others on vacation? Maye you should spend your weekend working on your marriage and why you are not satisfied with each other instead of looking for other people with moral values as low as yours!
2006-09-15 17:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by Flagstaff mama 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋