How do i become less shy around people?

Answer 1

You gotta muster up your courage and approach people on your own! Practice my dear

Answer 2

I was voted most shy of my high school class of 330 students. I am not so shy now. In fact I probably talk too much around folks. My big change came when I dared to become a salesperson to get a job. The sales meetings helped me to see myself with the "upper hand" instead of feeling vulnerable all the time. For instance, "if you are to speak in the front of a group of people, pretend they are all sitting uncomfortably in their underwear."

Another icebreaker, is to comment on something visual that you like about another person's property (clothing, car, home item, looks, etc.) to put you on the same level as their interest. That also gives you the chance to speak first.

Anymore, I won't be near anyone that I haven't spoken to about something whether I'm standing in line, on a bus, plane, or sitting in an audience anywhere. My goal is to be among friends not strangers.

I suppose, at times, I am the one they are speaking of when you hear the quote, " It is better to be thought a fool, then to open your mouth and remove all doubt." I usually speak before I think now instead of the other way around. This method may not create more friends, but it will definitely make you less shy.

Answer 3

I was always really shy, its all up to you Hun. If you don't want to be shy you have to force yourself to speak up more, cause yourself to get involved in other activities where you have to meet new people. Honestly the best thing I could have done was traveled on my own for a month in Europe, I had to talk to people to get by, and I had the time of my life, I've learned that I don't care what other people think and I feel more comfortable walking up to someone to ask a basic question and start meeting new people. I met up with a tour group, but seriously hunnie if you can go, even for a couple of weeks, doesn't have to be far away, it'll cause you to mature and become more outgoing and spontaneous. Break out of your shell girl, the feeling is awesome!

Answer 4

:) the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*.

so having said that, work on:

1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good.

2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it.

3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about.

:) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting to know teachers, etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.

Answer 5

well i dont have this problem but to tell u the truth when someone gets drunk their real side comes out and usually they become very sociable. go clubbing get a little drunk not too drunk and then when u get out of the drunk phase a few hours later and u wake up u will find urself either in bed with some girl or a few phone numbers. so u will know that it wasnt really the drunk u it was the you inside of you all along that just broke out of his shell.

Answer 6

Alcohol...no seriously, the more you expose yourself to situations where you are shy the more comfortable you will get. It takes a lot of time and effort to overcome shyness and it may never go away completely but you will learn to cope with it better over time.

Answer 7

Attend clubs. Whether it is school or community, they help stimulate communication. And hey, in return you'll be use to being around all types of people without being shy.

Answer 8

sit around them a few times and just observe. see what type of humor they like, what sort of convos they have and the tone of the group. try to say little things here and there to work your way in. dont use one word answers if youre asked something, it makes you eem like you dont wanna chat. try to elaborate and make open ended statements to get a convo going.... good luck!

Answer 9

get a lot of your friends together and get them 2 get u 2 talk 2 people.

Answer 10

You can enroll in some kind of class where you can participate in groups. That might help!