My husband is in jail and I felt the need to be touched by a man. So I did and now I am pregnant. I told my husband and he wants me to get rid of the baby. But I am 29 yrs old and this will be my second child. My frist is 13. I feel like God is giving me a chance to have a baby and if I turn over this chance I might never get it again. My husband and I Have been together for 13 years off and on. Married for 3 yrs. When i was 18 I got pregnant by him but he wasn't around and I was ready for another child at that time so I got rid of it. Then last year August 14th I lost our child. I was about 2months. I believe that it may not be meant for us to have a child together. He has 2 kids and my 1 child. It took 10 years for me to get pregnant last year and for me to get pregnant again is like Gods way of telling me to have this baby. I just don't know what to do because my husband wants me to get rid of it. He said that it was him or the baby. So what do I do??????????
2006-09-15 10:06:08 · 14 answers · asked by Sexy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Here we go again with someone blaming God for the crappy situation that they are in. God gave us something called FREE WILL. We aren't robots; we can make our own choices. YOU made the choice to be unfaithful. YOU made your bed, now lay in it.
2006-09-15 10:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just for the record, blonddoctor sounds like a moron with no life experience. If ignorance is bliss, they must be the happiest person on Earth!
As for the question at bat, that is a tough one:(
I guess the question would be how long has your husband been in jail? How much longer will he be there? Visiting someone through safety glass for the entirety of the marraige can't be healthy for either person.
If you want this baby then go for it. I have a friend who got pregnant by her boyfriend and cause he didn't want it she got an abortion. Well, she's married now, to someone else and they have been trying and trying, and because of the abortion she has so much scarring a pregnancy will not hold past two months.
As far the man who got you pregnant, does he know? If so, how does HE feel about the situation?
Just some food for thought. You have to do what you think is right for you AND not be cowed down by threats, because if he cared as much as he'd like you to think he does, wouldn't it make more sense to stay out of trouble and be with his wife and kid?
Just my opinion. Good Luck and Congrats if you do keep the little one:)
2006-09-15 17:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by patti_jim_reynolds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a return question, not that your answer will change my answer, but....
Where is the father of the baby now? Do you still talk to him? Does he want to help you raise this child?
Abortion is wrong. It's murder. The doubt in your mind is telling you that you want this baby. You and your husband have been married for 13 years, "off and on". What does that mean? Your husband is not fulfilling his vows to you by being incarcerated. If you don't need him for anything other than "his touch", then surely you don't need him at all. My advice is to have the baby, divorce the husband, and see if the father wants to be a part of the child's life. This doesn't mean you have to "hook up" with the father either. Single parents can raise successful children. You don't' need two deadbeats in this child's life. ONLY YOU CAN TRULY ANSWER THIS QUESTION! Good Luck!
2006-09-15 17:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by denverbroncos1973 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first don't cheat again. How can you say God is giving you a chance? I read the bible pretty regularly and I seem to recall that adultery is against his laws, I seriously doubt that he would approve. I would not abort my baby no matter what my husband wanted. I would apologize to him for breaking my vows and hurting him but I would keep my baby. It does not sound as if the two of you have much in common when he is not in jail. You were honest and told him don't make your child pay for your mistake. If he chooses not to work it out with you at least you will know you tried.
2006-09-16 18:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First why should a child die for what you did, you were wrong to have sex outside of your marriage no matter what the circumstances if you wanted to be with someone you should have gotten a divorce, if your husband was in jail when you got married what made you think it would be easy without him???
Why would you think "GOD" would want you to violate his commandments by having another man's baby, he didn't impregnate you a man did, this is not "GODS" doing, He said not to commit adultery, you want to say he wants you to have this baby, He wants you to face what you did accept your part in it and deal with it. Killing your baby may solve your husband problem but how do you deal with taking a life.
You made a mistake everyone of us do. Now be a woman a deal with it and if he leaves you that's not "GOD' it's your husband's choice of not forgiving you. On the real even if he says he does he will always think of what you did and look at the reminder (child) and not trust you for awhile. If you can live with this so be it. If not move on with your life and teach this child what not to do to mess up their lives. Children learn from our mistakes, or how we live let's set positive example for them. I hope you make the right descion for you and live by it. As for your husband he choose to say no to the baby a innocent child you have to understand his feelings but this child did not asked to be concieved. Please let me know how it works out. if you need someone to listen or help you through this let me know.
2006-09-16 13:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your situation I would do what I felt was right, not what Mr.Jailbird wants. I can understand how he might feel not okay with you being pregnant with someone else's child, and if you stay with him after he is out that might cause him to abuse your child, but this is your life and your baby's life. I don't think it should be that big of a deal for him, having had his own children with someone else. Keep your baby; everything happens for a reason.
2006-09-15 17:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to debate that much about it, you keep that baby. It shows in the question that you want your baby; you just feel guilty of the way it happened. Stuff happens, you raise that baby and give him a chance for life. God doesn't make mistakes- even when we do. Abortion is not a form of birth control. You had one already, it happened again- be a woman and lay in the bed you made. HE will reward you in the end.
2006-09-15 17:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by prettyat23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blood is thicker than water... That's your baby and whatever circumstances came about that caused him to be incarcerated are his responsibility. It's just not worth giving up a life unknown for one of unhappiness. You suffer the repercussions but you are blessed with an innocent child to nurture.
2006-09-15 17:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by sneakyfker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a hard sitation. You did wrong by cheating. Now do what you really want to do. If you want to raise the child then go ahead. If you won't raise him you'll have regret all you life. You husband is in jail.What the hell he is doing there. Seriousely he is not there for some good work. so ahead and raise the child. Its not his/her fault.
2006-09-15 17:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by 360 degree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough one - but all life is important, and although the circumstances are not ideal, allowing the baby to come forth would probably be the best option.
2006-09-15 17:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by uee385 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋