I have only been married one year. We have had struggles with our intimate part of our relationship. We have been together for 4 years, and we still do the same thing when it comes to having sex. It is like a routine, I have tried to break it but he seems to do the same thing all the time. (foreplay is the same and i can say exactly what he will do and when) it is starting to get boring and feel like a chore. I need some advice on how to spice things up a little and not be so routine, I want to give him way good pleasure, any tips? Thanks!
Also, please dont tell me to watch porn, (religouse issues) Thanks so much for your help and advice!
2006-09-15
09:54:40
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You need to sit down and talk to each other, tell him your feelings. He may be having issues that he's been reluctant to discuss with you. I agree with you porn is not the answer. Communication and perhaps counseling. Hope it works out for you. Good Luck.
2006-09-15 10:10:13
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answered by Anonymous
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well, that's what you are! Great provider but where's the great romancer?? You sound more like a father than a husband. If I were her, over time, I see you as my father who loves me. Nothing more than that. I wouldnt want to make love to my father!! You may be a good husband but you are not a GREAT husband. Think back of the time when you were wooing her. If there was a time you both did make love together, there must be some kind of thing that you did to make her wanna do you. What did you not do that you did then? Good luck !
2016-03-17 21:39:51
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answered by Anonymous
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First off let me tell you that my wife and I are going through the same thing. Basically your not going to change him, if he doesn't want to. You all are 2 different people with different sex likes and dislikes. To tell you the truth it all starts off outside of the bedroom. If you can reach your man with things that interest him outside the bedroom, there might be a shot at bringing it to the bedroom. Hey, maybe try something sexual outside the bedroom. I don't know if you have kids or not. But that can do it also. Try sending them over to grandma's house for the weekend. Also maybe work could be getting to him.(strees). Bottom line, If you are serious about your religion. Then this shouldn't upset you so much. As we all know there are alot of things a married couple can do without involving intercourse.
2006-09-15 11:37:44
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answered by Anonymous
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Church sex is routine and monotonous. Porn can sometimes give you ideas. How far are you willing to go?
Have you tried tying him up with silk scarves and blindfold him while you perform felatio and do other assorted feel good things?You can't be prudish when it comes to sex with your mate. You don't have to tell any of us or your friends what you do. It is between the both of you. Otherwise try a Tantric Sex Site it gets into the spiritual side of sex etc...
Try something simple like 69+1 you will probably like it alot.
2006-09-15 10:25:03
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answered by AVA 4
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maybe you can surprise him and dress up and do a strip tease for him- or introduce some handcuffs or blindfold him. How about kissing him and all types of fourplay- but tell him he's not allowed to touch you. Kiss him, carress from ears to toes- he'll go crazy not being able to touch you and in turn- he'll want to do the same. Or maybe while he's in the kitchen- or watching t.v- or in the car- do something nice and unexpected for him! It'll blow his mind and he'll want to do something surprising for you the next time around. He may just not know how to spice it up and he may feel the same way you do. Take the initiative! Good luck
2006-09-15 10:08:27
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answered by prettyat23 2
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okay here some ideas for you. give a body massage to each other. make some sex tickets out. example this ticket is good to make love in the living room. role play, have sex in different rooms, make love outside in the rain or in the back yard. in the hot tub, swimming pool, car or truck. use whip cream on each other and lick it off. do a strip tease for him. there is so many ideas to spice up your marriage as far religious issues as long it just you and him don't see god getting mad at you.
2006-09-15 15:23:02
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answered by olive_olive_72 4
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Please, feel free to discuss these thoughts and feelings with your husband. For all you know, he is acting this way because he thinks it works for you (up to now because it used to).
A healthy relationship will not be threatened by suggestions for improvement. It'll only get better!
Enjoy!
2006-09-15 10:18:36
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answered by anieska 3
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Find another way to have fun & sex !!! My hubby & I will make up fantasies he picks up one, then I choose another then we prepare one together, we also watch XXX movies together , also there are playing cards at a sex shop that you can find like dare cards or other games ... we really enjoy having this games or like last weekend we play spin the bottle & everytime it was my turn it was about taking aby piece of cothe or a kiss ANYWERE or you choose what to do just make it different also e-mail him or writre sexy notes do what you both feel like doing it to make something different & brake this routine ....GOOD LUCK & HAVE FUN!!!!
2006-09-15 10:23:47
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answered by Anonymous
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I have been married for 11 yrs and you are on the right track. Next time he is on the couch watching tv go to him with a short skirt (no panties) and keep it on and get on him. He should like that and make sure you know you look hot and you will like it too.
2006-09-15 10:07:20
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answered by 2strongfor2long 3
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Try doing it on the couch or your living room floor. Change the location but nothing else and see what happens.
2006-09-15 10:03:24
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answered by Anonymous
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