Bestfriend is Bi-sexual what should i do ?

Question

My best friend of 11 yrs told me today that she is bi-sexual . She had her first experience with a girl last night and she liked it. I told her maybe she's curious and not really bi , but she insists that she is. Anyways , she is the god-mother of my 2 kids, and I am very uncomfortable with that. I can't tell my husband because he will never allow her near our children, he has a gay aunt and she isn't allowed to our house or around our kids. What should I do in this situation ? I still want to be friends but I am very uncomfortable with the whole bi-sexual thing , especially with that around my kids . Need some advice. Thanks

Answer 1

You don't have to bring her sexuality into you guys' relationship. Just keep your friendship out of the realm of bedroom activities. Tell her you prefer it to be like this, and I think she will probably understand.

Answer 2

What a sheltered life you must lead. Your sexuality has nothing to do with your ability to be good with children. Just because she is bisexual doesn't make her a child abuser, or mean that she will lead your children astray or 'turn' them gay aswell. What a shame there are people in our world that still think like this. Also, if any of your children are gay they will already be gay, nobody or nothing can turn them gay and there is nothing you can do about this. You should be supportive of your friend being brave enough to come out to you and do some research on the internet. And by the way, I am straight. X

Answer 3

I don't see how her being Bi-sexual affects your children? It sounds like she is keeping her sexuality in the bedroom... Just let her know how uncomfortable your husband is with this kind of thing, and trust me, she will keep her private life private around you. She is still the same person! Just don't bring it up. If she is the one to bring it up, then change the subject or hint that you would prefer not to talk about it. Maybe there is something else going on her in her life that has brought about this change in her...and perhaps it will pass....If not, a true friend would not let something like this ruin their relationship.

Answer 4

Shes still ur best friend! Just cause she likes girls now doesn't change her just the people she goes out with. Shes still the same! If u are ashamed of her and cant trust her around ur kids just because shes bi then ur not a true friend!! What if it was u that turned bi would u like it if she all of a sudden didn't feel comfortable around u and didn't let u be with ur god-children because u like girls too! U said bi not child molester!

Answer 5

Your husband and you both need to learn how to be more open minded.
If she is a bisexual, what does that have to do with your sexuality? Why does it bother you so much? And his own Aunt can't be near your kids.. why? Because she'll spread her "Lesbianism". Seriously, wake up please. It's 2006; people are open to new and different things.
No family member or close friend should be shut out of your life because of the type of person they love. AND your husband needs to be more understanding towards his aunt and accept her lifestyle even if he doesn't think it's right.
Secondly, having a gay person around your kids won't make them gay. If they turn out gay, it was the path chosen for them, not a choice they made to be like your friend or your husbands aunt, so why keep them away?
Homosexuality isn't contagious.
I don't want to seem rude, but I once was a homophobic until my best friend of 15 years came out to me. I began realizing that homosexuality isn't for me but that if it is for someone I love, I will accept it and not act disgusted by their choice, it's them not me. And, my friend hasn't hit on me, she knows I am not a lesbian... so why is it such a problem to you and your husband?
Afriad his aunt or your friend might hit on you or your kids?
Please get a grip and get some help with your homophobia.

Answer 6

11 years is a very long time. Why would you want to share the information that she told you with anyone? She still is your best friend and she would never do anything in your household that would raise a question. Just continue being the friend that you've been all these years. I'm sure you can tell her about your concerns and that will insure that nothing ever happens in your home. Good luck.

Answer 7

Boy, that's a toughie. Not that I'd have a problem with your friend but that you husband won't be sympathetic. Have you got a little time before your friend announces to the world? Is there any chance that he likes your friend?
You know of course that her being bi says nothing about her as a person and you also know she won't turn into some kinds of child molester, right?

Answer 8

You are married, and you are friends with an 11 year old??? I don't understand why you are friends with this young girl. Are you secretly bi or something? Anyway, I think she should not come near the kids either. It is just not a good idea. Being bi is a choice. It is a lifestyle that satisfies a person perhaps sexually, but it is immoral by regular standards. I am not trying to judge here. I am simply saying that at one point or another they will look up to her. Do you want your kids to be bi? It really is your choice!

Answer 9

What does any of this have to do with her being the god-mother to your kids. She isn't a pedophile or she doesn't have a contagious sickness. Get into the 21st century now. I think you and your husband have been hidding in the closet too long.

Answer 10

why are you so uncomfortable ?? she is still the best friend you have known.. I'm sure she loves your kids and would never do anything in front of them or talk about it in front of them .. I say just keep her secret to yourself and keep being there for her... if you are such a best friend this sort of thing should not break up your friendship ...and you don't need to tell your husband it's not his business.. just tell your friend you are uncomfortable with the situation and you don't want to discuss it with her

Answer 11

Well it's not like she's making your kids watch, or flaunting her newfound sexual preferences around your family. She's your best friend of 11 years. I doubt she would do or say anything about it around your kids. She told you because you are her best friend. Just have a private conversation telling her to please not say/or do anything in reference to it around your family. Maybe sit down and really think about why it makes you uncomfortable, before you talk to her.