my friend is leaving her husband for another man. she started seeing the other man while still with husband. is she wrong for falling in love with the man shes supposed to be with. she was never in love with husband.
2006-09-15 09:36:26 · 26 answers · asked by khristial 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she was never in love with her husband. they got married just so she could move out of her parents house. the husband knew that. he wasnt in love with her either. its like they werent even married. just lived together.
2006-09-15 09:49:21 · update #1
No, shes not wrong, you can't help how you feel.
2006-09-15 09:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, she was wrong to handle it that way. If she has children, she shouldn't leave her husband no matter what. If not, it's probably actually better for her husband if she does leave. First off, she shouldn't have married him if she didn't love him. But most importantly, one should not start a relationship with someone else while still in the marriage. If you're unhappy in marriage, do something about that. If you find that nothing works, AND you have no children, THEN get a divorce, and LAST start a relationship with someone new.
2006-09-15 16:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two things I see wrong here. No, she shouldn't have fallen in love with another man being married to her husband. And no, she should have never married someone she doesn't love in the first place. What is she doing with her life?! This is not a game.
2006-09-15 16:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I Can't believe how many people are saying, it's NOT wrong. Of course it's wrong to being seeing another man while married. Marriage is suppose to be a life long commitment not a short term, if everything suites my needs type of relationship! Besides why marry if you aren't in love - she could have saved a lot of heartaches for everyone involved. But what is done is done! Hopefully she will be more committed this time around.
2006-09-15 16:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Cjs 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, she is wrong.
If she was never in love with her husband then she shouldn't have married him.
This is why so many people are getting divorced, because they're not in love and just go about marriage like it's nothing. She shouldn't have married him, she has only hurt him worse by marrying and then cheating.
She isn't wrong for falling in love but she is wrong for marrying someone she didn't love and then committing adultery.
2006-09-15 16:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she was never in love with her husband then she should of never married him. Yes she betrayed him and was in the wrong for cheating on him. If she wasn't happy in the marriage she could of told him and got a divorce.
2006-09-15 16:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no your friend is not wrong at all for a marred of fact i am in her shoes! i am married and also have never been in love with my husband i only love him as a friend we have 3 kids together and he is an awesome father and all but he is just not the one for me! so i have began the divorcing process with my husband so that i can be with my true love. she is not at fault at all and neither am i we just want to be happy
2006-09-15 17:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by kaylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person with honor and integrity will end their current relationship, whether it be marriage or other, before they begin looking for a new relationship.
If they are married, unhappy, and suddenly find themselves strongly attracted to another person the honorable thing to do would be to not take any actions with the new relationship until a formal seperation from the spouse has occured.
2006-09-15 16:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So you friend is a liar and a cheat and had no regard for her marriage vows because she entered into the marriage falsely (love, honor, cheish, forsaking all others was BS to her I suppose) Nice friend. Is she wrong for falling in love with the man shes supposed to be with? Wasn't she SUPPOSED to be with her husband.
Well, she and her new man are probably perfect for each other. She's a lying cheat, and he didn't mind fooling around with a married woman. A perfect match.
(Remember that saying, "If they do it with you, they'll do it to you.")
2006-09-15 16:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she was wrong but as I say you can't help who you fall in love with. I fell in love with another man when I was married and I don't regret it. I am still with him1 year later and we are getting married. She needs to decide what is best for her.
2006-09-15 16:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should never have married him if she didn't ever love him. If he loves her then she's going to hurt him badly. How could you stay in marriage with someone you don't love? How could you say you loved your spouse but fell in love with someone else? It's all crap. Marriage is not a signed paper. It's a life time committment as long as you are not hurting your partner or they're not hurting you.
2006-09-15 16:57:18 · answer #11 · answered by Harry thePotter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋