how to spank?

Question

how do I spank my daughter? she is 5 and I havent done it b4 if u have any other punishments that have worked on your kid please tell

thank you

Answer 1

pants down, over the knee, 6-10 sharp spanks. That should do the trick.
Good luck

Answer 2

I very strongly believe in spankings as a last resort, after warnings, time outs, loss of privileges, and our famous point chart. Needless to say there are some crimes that jump right to spankings, misbehaving in school, life threatening mistakes, or absolute direct defiance. They should be RARE, that being said they should be well remembered also. With us spankings are done in privet ( no one else should be punished by having to watch ) The child is told what is happening and why, they must repeat why so they understand and not do it again. Pants and under ware are taken down ( the loud slap noise and scare factor is worse the the actual spanking, also you know you are not leaving marks as long as your in control ) The child is laid over the knee/lap and spanked with the hand ( I don't believe in using objects, but that's our opinion ).
In a nut shell that's it. I might add that if you don't think you have the temper to give a spanking with out losing control you SHOULD NOT SPANK.
Just my opinion, unlike others I know there is no sure fire "Right" way of parenting, Just try your best and love your kids.

Answer 3

The most important thing about using spanking is to be consistent. Idle threats--or nilly willy use of it--is counter productive. It is hard to be consistent--and if you can not do it you should not spank.

I do not believe in using your hand to spank. I think hands are for loving. It is better to use some kind of insturment--a wooden spoon, paint stick, paddle, etc. It is best to use the same thing every time.

Although a lot of people disagree (and strenuosly) I spank on the bare fanny. The immediate purpose of giving a spanking is to safely give a good sting. This is difficult to do over layers of clothing. There is also the risk of actually overdoing it and causing injury. Spanking on the bare bottom--it does not have to be as hard of a spanking. I also think it gives a certain solemnity to the punishment--which helps it sink in. In sum it is a safe and effective way to spank. That is why it is the "traditonal" way to spank.

You should be careful not to spank in anger. What I usually do is have my child go to their room. I wait a few minutes and then come up and give the spanking.

Since you are just starting out and she is young--there is going to be some struggling. So the best way to physically give the punishment is probably over your lap. My kids are used to it and are required to bend over.

Since you are just starting out it is only fair that you tell your daughter about the new system. Show her the spanking tool and expain the types of misbehavior it will be used for.

Again--I repeat--do not do it half-heartedly--if you can not be fair and consistent in its use--forget this method of punishment and discipline.

Answer 4

I am not a parent, and do not plan to be one for a while. I am, however, a product of this so-called "child abuse." I have turned out fine mentally, emotionally, and physically. Spanking is not, in fact, as horrible as it may sound at first. I remember my parents being firm, consistent, and they made sure I knew why I was being punished. They only spanked me as a last resort for a major disrespect offense. They did not use excessive force and they did not spank me when they were only irritated with me. It's good to put your foot down once in a while, but you should try and stick to other methods, probably one that encourages good behavior.

However, spanking shouldn't happen at all if you're effective at other forms of discipline, namely taking away privileges that your child values.

Answer 5

An abrupt open-hand slap square on the fanny - without much force - usually gets their attention. The action startles them to the point where they forget the activity that they were engaged in - and immediately stop. Of course, this should not be over-used - and should NEVER be the primary choice of discipline. If the child is old enough to understand structured sentences - get down to their level - and calmly, yet firmly talk to them about what they are doing wrong. Time-outs can also be effective for outbursts. Spanking should be reserved as the last resort after all other methods have been exhausted. Never use an object such as a belt or spoon (for those of us over 35....remember that???), and NEVER strike the child on an extremity, torso, or the head. Most of the time, all it takes is to separate the child from the activity that is causing the issue - and spanking can be averted.

Answer 6

i remember learning that the best way is for there to be 2 people present. first you talk about why they're getting spanked, and why it's wrong. then you sit with the child over your lap, and the other person is in front of you with thier hands on their back and upper thighs (this protects everything but the bottom). some people say it's better to use a paddle, then the child won't associate your hand with the pain, they'll hate the paddle, lol. but whatever way you decide to do it, wait til you're calm, so they know it's the dicipline, and not your anger that's making this happen.
afterward, make sure you give them a big hug, and show them a ton of love.

children really truly respect parents who dicipline them. (whether it's spanking or losing privilleges, or whatever) if you do it in the right spirit, and are consistant, your little one will look up to you, for being in charge, and being strong for them. kids don't want wishy washy parents, and they already have enough friends. they need parents.

a side note, it's good to ask...."is this a spanking matter?" sometimes a child is just being a child, and making their childish mistakes. one thing i think is a spanking matter, is outright disobedience, and disrespect. those need to be stopped right away, and sometimes take the spanking to get the point across.

Answer 7

This is an odd question. A good open hand slap to her butt should do the trick. If not, try hauling her over your lap for a few of them on a bare fanny. That is sure to get her attention. If that still doesn't work, you will have to find another method.

Spanking should not always be the first option. But if you do spank, make damn sure she knows why she is getting it.

Answer 8

I always reserved spanking for extreme disrespect and injury type situations. For things like getting out of bed or back talk or you know...you have one!!...I liked the time out with a twist. if the nose in the corner wasn't sufficient to get their attention, I would ask them to do a static push up. that's a push up in the up position only. It puts their attention on their bellies and their shoulders and how to get them and keep them from hurting like this. (only fatigue no damage) and as they got older I added exercises to the time outs. It was nice because I didn't have to loose my temper, they knew when they were being bad and I would just say 50, 50, 50...these were the pre teens they would do 50deep knee bends, 50 leg kickers (in out sharks) and 50 push ups. Yes they would get this on a regular basis but it takes more time than a spanking, so they get to think about what they did wrong, it burns calories, so they were not as restless, and they were obeying their parents as they were finishing these consequences learning that they could control the amount of excesses the would participate in for a day. Now my kids were home schooled and didn't have the mouth on them that I have experienced with many other kids, but lets just say they got plenty of excesses over the years....hope this helps

Answer 9

I have never spanked my daughter. Personally I do not beleive it helps. I use a reward system. I saw it used on the show the Nanny. I give her a marble (we use a Bowl to keep them in) everytime she does something well, clean her room, brush her teeth, hep with the dishes etc. and when she misbehaves I take one away, at the end of the week we count them and I give her a quarter for every marble and she can buy her self something at the store. Good Luck Parenting is the hardest job we will ever have and I don't think there is a right answer for everyone all of our children are different and need different rules. Just be consistent and whatever you try try it for at least 2 weeks and when you find something that works stick with it. If they know that you won't be consistent with your punishment and your praise then they won't be consistent with their behavior. That is the most important thing that I have learned being a parent. Hope this helps!

Answer 10

I am not opposed to spanking! However I know with my younger sister, not even spanking worked. Finally my parents make this veggie stir-fry one night, and she HATED it. My parents warned her that if she did the thing that was wrong (I don't remember what it was) she'd have nothing to eat until that bowl of stirfry was gone. It seemes crule at first, but it was healthy food, and it worked. You'd really have to put your foot down, and stick with the punishment, but it worked! Honestly, that was the only punishment she needed once! As she got a little older, if she misbehaved in public, my mother (a 5' white woman) would stand in a main isle and sing Ludacris "What's your fantasy" and really emphasize the "uh, uh" part with hip thrusts and all. So try spanking, but maybe one of these might help too. :)