i joined the royal navy in october 05, broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years and went away,
i missed her a bit 4 a while but when she told me she slept with someone else, i got jealous left the navy in march and came home and moved in with her.
although i badly regret it, all i do now is works my nuts off and have to come home and do dishes or cut grass.
the time has come around now that i can rejoin where i left off, i love my girlfriend, but i hate the civillian life and miss my boys.
life was so much easier being away!
i so badly want to go back, but if i leave her, well have 2 sell our place and she will have to move back with her mum miles away! and miles away from her friends and work! but i dont want that for her, it'l be bad enough dumping her for a loada lads(but for a good purpose)
do i spend the rest of my life making her happy and me being misrable, or do i jus cut all my ties and go back to the job i love doing! please help its killing me!
2006-09-15 09:24:00 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go NAVY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-15 09:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Jet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you, I would go back to The Navy, as much as you love this girl, you will always regret not going back in the navy and you will blame her for it later in life. Without sounding negative, you probably won't last that long. She can obviously move on easily after all she did sleep with someone else, so don't worry about her, worry about yourself, go do the job you love, I'm sure it will be more enjoyable to you, than working your nuts off, going home doing the dishes and mowing the lawn. How boring and tedious. I'm sure you will find a nice girl in the Navy who shares the same interests as you.
Your girlfriend will survive, if she has to go back to her moms, then so be it. Just leave the dealings regarding your half of the house/flat in safe hands.
I wish you all the best in making the right decision.
All the best.
2006-09-15 09:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by bizzybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go the Navy - but I would say that. I'm in the Navy Reserve here in London, and so I get the best of civvy and mil life. Off to the far East soon, lots of courses etc. so maybe that's an option.
That said, when you joined the first time, she didn't waste any time shacking up with someone else, did she? If she loves you, she'll spend time keeping the house in good order for you when you ARE home, with a view to living out once you get a shore posting. That way you'll be living together ANd you'll be in the RN. Perfect. Go with your career, dude. If she truly loves you, she will accomodate your career choice, just as you have accomodated her. Real love is about give and take.
Good luck!
2006-09-18 00:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by ManBoobs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is in the Navy and whilst I find it really hard when he is away and I am left with all the boring house stuff, I would never ever expect him to choose and so the way I look at it, I either go out with him in the Navy or don't get to go out with him atall, and there is just no question which I would choose.
If this is the right girl for you you should be able to work your relationship around your career, lots of couples (service and non-service) do it.
I'm not saying it is easy but it can be done. Neither of you seem that committed to making it work, especially as she cheated on you. Don't give up your dreams, if you are meant to be then you will be able to have both, but it requires trust, honesty and patience.
2006-09-15 09:32:39 · answer #4 · answered by scoob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get back your ex is https://tr.im/BK6eP
Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-19 18:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres no point being in a relationship that you dont sound happy being in. Id say go to the navy as that sounds like thats where your heart and happiness really lies.
At the end of the day nobody wants to be pitied, so stop feeling so bad and speak to your girlfriend as to how youve been feeling...and if that doesnt solve anything then just RUN!!
The navy sounds like the best thing for you at this point in time as its a once in a lifetime thing (in your case twice in a lifetime).
GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-09-15 09:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound young you should put your career and your happiness first she isnt the one for you if she doesnt support you in your happy choice of lifestyle and career you will meet someone who will do this and that is the one for you - life is about you too you must not have regrets she should if she loved you never slept with someone else jealousy will get you at first but move on and enjoy your life dont regret please it is not worth the next 50 years being a miserable old git and hating her having a dead end job with five kids and a women who treats and winds you around your finger good luck navy boy
2006-09-15 10:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by ruddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know what you really want to do by the way you have put the question. Navy or not do you really love her. Surely it would be better to end it now than in a few months or years when the hurt for you both would be even more.
Good luck.
2006-09-15 09:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by book 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in a relationship with someone you don't trust and makes your life miserable? The Royal Navy will offer you better opportunities and provide you with travel. If this person is unwilling to wait for you, then that's her lost.
2006-09-15 09:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the navy follow your heart and you not married and still young so follow your heart and dreams and ambitions and it sound like you;ve already made up your mind to go to the navy already and just remeber life is what you make of it and if this gurl truely cared for you she'd at least try to understand so do whot feels right you'v already made the mistake to leave the navy once and you saw whot came of it so now you have one more chace to follow your dreamz in the navy so do it and follow through
2006-09-15 09:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by cutiestnowgurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go back to the navy man.. can u picture u spending your rest of your life with someone that makes u miserable or making u happy? Forget about her and live for ur own happiness
2006-09-15 09:27:27 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋