She calls me a b***h to my face and finds fault with everything I do. I made her Christmas present last year, and she complained about me being cheap! She's constantly putting my husband in a position where he feels he has to choose between a relationship with her or one with me, and it's putting a lot of strain on our marriage. I can't just ignore her because my husband's relationship with her is really important to him. What should I do?
2006-09-15 09:18:17 · 10 answers · asked by brainy_blonde 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i have found sometimes it is just best to just be together
and leave the rest of your families out of it send them cards in the mail call them short and sweet . that way neither have to think about what people are going to say or do to try to hurt your relationship
2006-09-15 09:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what your going through and I know the situation sucks because I had to go through the same crap my husband's mom called me names and she would get me and him into it by spreading lies she even called my parents saying she wanted us to get a divorce she even tried to put things in my husband's head about me saying our kids look different when we went around her we fought constantly my husband and I got to the point of nothing but arguing well he finally put his foot down and told her if you can't accept my wife I think it's best we stay away from each other well till this day and on we all stay away from each other we all don't get along anyways and nothing is worth screwing a marriage up when you get married you marry the the one you love not their family and when you get married you forsake all others you should have a talk with him he should understand the way you feel mine didn't like the way I got treated she was just a trouble maker
2006-09-15 21:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really difficult for a Man to stand up to his Mother when they are tight, but your husband should not allow his mother to treat you this way, he needs to start standing up for you on your behalf.
I hope you do not have children right now, that will be a whole new set of issues, Hopefully your husband will be able to speak with Mom about this, Good Luck....it was nice of you to make her something for Christmas, I am sorry to hear that she was so rude towards you.
2006-09-15 12:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, this may be a frustrating one yet i'll furnish it a shot. there's no longer something incorrect with you wanting to get closer with your mom in regulation. whether the indisputable fact which you provided to be somebody for her to talk approximately your husband's ex too is amazingly unusual and in all probability appeared such as you could probable have an ulterior reason. additionally, your furnish to be somebody that she would have the ability to talk with reference to the ex to is somewhat weird and wonderful. it extremely is yet another rationalization why it would desire to look such as you have an ulterior reason to her. noticeably a lot you will desire to have left it you will extremely choose to have an more advantageous dating together with her and would desire to have centred the letter on that. particularly of offering to be somebody she would have the ability to talk to with reference to the ex. it extremely is merely my address it. additionally, some human beings may be extra sensetive than others and that i think of that the two you and her fall into that catagory. Her extra so however. So, you the two have issues to artwork on.
2016-10-01 00:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by wiemer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to have a very serious talk with his mother and make her treat you nice. If her relationship with him is as important to her as it is to him then she will respect his wishes. He needs to stand up for you because you are his wife. Remind him that he wanted a wife and his mother needs to be ,at the very least, respectful towards you.
2006-09-17 16:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, you don't have kids with this man. First of all He's a wus. You should be his number one priority!! Not mommy. You give him an ultimatum. Mommy or me. She sounds like a real peach. Why put yourself out there to be hurt?
2006-09-15 09:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by smile4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stay away from you and your family . Its unhealthy and will make you sick in the end! Tell your hubby you come first and not Mommy. If he chooses to support her dump his *** and find a man that is true to love.
2006-09-15 09:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by LiberalsUnited 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her step on you, the same happens to me. Your husband needs to realize that you come first now, and if she doesn't want to get along with you well send her to hell.
2006-09-15 09:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by eld13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to have a heart to heart with him and tell him exactually how you feel and do not leave anything out. you need to confront her and tell her how you feel as well. maybe she might respect you more if you do not back down. you can not be nice and civil to some one like that. it might work, or it might back fire... give it a shot
2006-09-15 09:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by crystal s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell your husband that it's either your joint life or him and his mum. It's his funeral, so let him manage it.
2006-09-15 09:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋