i'm i gay?

Question

i've always told myself i am 100% straight, but i've fancied women (since i was probably 12). i like 2 women now and its taking over my life. i haven't told anyone this. i've always made fun of gays now im scared i am gay, but i like lads aswel. I'm i bisexual or just confused?

Answer 1

either way, you are who you are and there is nothing to be ashamed about - in fact, everyone in the world is bisexual - its just that some people are better at hiding it than others- believe me, this is true, and it's people with who should know better that put others down about sexuality and unfortunately, it rubs off on other people - if you are bi, the its no big deal - look at it this way - You get the best of both worlds!!!

Smile! and be comfortable for who you are.

Answer 2

I think that if you are strongly attracted to women then the best answer would be to try an experience with one and see how it turns out. Most people at some point in there life ( whether they admit it or not) feel some sort of attraction to a member of the same sex so it may turn out to be nothing. In the end if you discover that you are, bisexual, gay or straight it doesn't matter just as long as you are happy. So don't panic and enjoy your life!

Answer 3

Most people who think they are "bisexual" are just afraid of what people would say about them if they came out GAY. You like women you said you fancied women since you were 12. Your gay sweety. You might still like men to, but that doesn't mean your straight, or bi. That just means you haven't totally accepted it yet and your trying to comfort yourself by saying that you are bi and trying to make it better by saying that. Normally the people that tease gay's the most tend to end up coming out. I'm gay! I knew when i was a young lad. like age 7 or 8.

Answer 4

You could just really admire these women. Sometimes, we get excited (not necessarily sexually) about new friendships and confuse that with "liking" them- I know I did!

On the other hand, people change! Maybe you were afraid before but have come to terms more with gay being "OK." What scares you about it? The thought of sex with the same sex? The thought of what other people would say? Your family? Friends? We all make mistakes and joke around to fit in with a group. Oh, if people could hear the things my sister and I say when joking.

Please take care of yourself, don't worry about a title, and enjoy life! It's not long! I hope this helps a little.

Answer 5

Make sure you're being completely honest here. Do you fancy women sexually in the same way you fancy guys? How old are you? It may just be a phase thing.

I've been gay my whole life, but I've slept with girls - i just like guys more. If you're gay - so what? Don't let it bother you. Is there someone in particular you fancy (boy-wise)?
Email for more advice. Oh, and knock off the gay-bashing.

Answer 6

Its been my experience those who crucify gays, make fun of them, ect deep down inside are just covering something up.

I truly am starting to believe that in todays society that Bi sexuals is a very common and rapid growing. I do not know if the genetics are making this possible, or if now its a choice. I do think it is related to gays wanting the best of both worlds and adapting.

Answer 7

Your not a can, don't try so hard to label yourself. If either of these girls fancy you back, then go and try to spend a little one on one time with them, see how it goes, if not, try meeting some girls on faceparty, gaydargirls, profile heaven, MySpace or something, or simply head down to your local gay bar. But don't push yourself, sexuality is fluid, you simply go with how you feel, who you fancy.

I do believe that we are all variations of Bisexual, for every Gay man there is a 'right woman' out there somewhere, for the most heterosexual man, there is one man, somewhere, I am sure that would turn his head.

Answer 8

Well love, lets hope that all the gays you have made fun out of don't all gang together and pull their tongues out at you! As for being scared, welcome to the real world, what do you think most gays experience once they realise their situation - unbridled joy?
If you have come to the conclusion that you like both men and women, get on with it and enjoy life!

Answer 9

You better try it with a lad to make sure before you make any life changing decisions.
Anyway bisexuality can be pretty confusing. Try to be honest with yourself first, before starting to be honest with other people. And are you being honest with those two girlfriends?

Answer 10

Bisexual.