There is this popular girl in my class. HOW DO I MAKE FRIENDS WITH HER AND BE COOL FOR ONCE IN MY LIFE?
2006-09-15 09:07:57 · 46 answers · asked by Bethel S 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
BE NICE TO EVERYONE.
Being in the popular group is not always the best place to be. I was a "popular" cheerleader and my group of "friends" were all insecure and mean. A lot of people envied our group - I ENVIED their FRIENDSHIPS.
This is MANY years ago and my kids have told me it is the same today. I told them to BE NICE to everyone and not worry about being "popular" They were on Prom courts, Captains of teams, etc. and ALL HAD MANY FRIENDS.
2006-09-15 09:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally know where you're coming from, but I don't agree with it. I remember a while back when I wished I could be one of the 'popular kids'. But now I'm mature enough to know that they aren't the kind of people I want to be friends with. The majority of 'popular people' are 'popular' for all the wrong reasons. And once you get to highschool, they are still remembered to be the 'popular kids', but they all end up being whores (excuse my language) and no one wants to be friends with them. Be your own popular kid. Forget that girl. She's probably not all that great anyways. Besides, you shouldn't become friends with her just to make yourself feel accepted as one of the 'popular kids'. It just doesn't work that way. Friendships take time, and trust. Using this girl to make yourself fit in is down right shallow and completely untrustworthy. You don't want to be known as that do you? I didn't think so. 'Popular' is just a stereotype and stereotyping is not a good thing to do. I personally hate it, as well as many of the people I know. You ARE cool. You just need to let it shine through. Be yourself. Act like you would around your best friend at school. Don't be nervous of whether or not people will like the real you, because I'm sure if you let them see her, they will. You want people to like you for you, not some cheesy stuck up I'm-better-than-you personality you don't even know. Trust me. I understand what you're going through. Take my advice, put it into action, and watch as you become your own person...not someone else.
2006-09-15 10:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you coul go many routes. i will give you suggestions and you do what you feel is right for you.
Join the sports that she is involved in. Most people who are involved in many sports have more friends b/c there is more conversation starters. Basketball, cheerleading, softball, track.
Read every cosmo you can get your hands on.
Figure out what her interests are. Ask her questions. See if she can tutor you in some way.
Some popular people sleep around. Then your only popular with the boys.
Find the nicest girl in the group and befriend her. then work your way in and see why that girl is popular and what she likes.
You will find out when you are out of school that coolness equals nothing. It is an alternate world in highschool that is brought on by many things. Some girls have kept the same friends from gradeschool up. These girls probably participate in most sports and wear good fashion. They are probably wealthy. Just try every day to wear the cutest outfit you can and talk with many people. Be active at the rallys and try to sit near the cooler people instead of being quite at the top of the bleachers. JOin in as much as you can. Do as many things possible persay choir sports and such. Have as much fun as you can. People want to be friends with people who look happy and laugh and joke. JOin the yearbook staff if you can.
I hope this helps some. Good luck! Don't worry about being cool. Just worry about enjoying these precious years. It all changes when you graduate.
2006-09-15 09:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by :o) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to make friends with someone just because she is more popular than you is not cool. Dont' use people, she probably has loads of people like that around her because of that reason, which makes her look even cooler, not because she's popular but because she's surrounded by wannabes.
Work on the friendships you already have, be yourself and be friendly to everyone at school. You might not be the most popular girl at school, but if you spare time to chat to people that you don't know that well you will find your circle of friends growing.
Sometimes, someone that has a lot of people that likes them, but not nessarilly a bunch of people following them has something about them that popular girls take notice and will magnate to it, and may invite you into their circle.
So don't be bitchy, and build up your confidence and start networking.
2006-09-15 10:03:52 · answer #4 · answered by nickieca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not be all you think she is. And I would love to tell you all the reasons why it isn't important to be popular, because in the real world it isn't. But, I also know what it was like when I was in school. I was on the outside at one pt when I was new and later on the inside. Life is easier on the inside! You don't necessarily need to be friends with that one girl. Becoming friends with any one pop person will usually get u in.You can't force friendship so you have to find a common connection. Join as many groups at school as you can. Get involved. Also dating a pop guy will get u in. Until then just be nice to everybody...and I mean everybody. Get an old book called "How to win friends and influence people." It will help you in school and in business when you get older.
2006-09-15 09:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by popular really?.. Is she a member of any of the school teams if so join as well, introduce yourself and ask for some help with whatever it is you all are doing. Strike up some conversation and see what she likes. Hopefully you like some of the same things and yall can start talking on the phone for hours like all women eventually do lol. Good luck.
2006-09-15 09:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiss up to her if you want to be a hanger on. Why don't you find your own place and be happy with yourself for who you are and can be? Being cool is not all that there is. I remember when I was in school I considered myself to be on the "B" list. Amazingly, years later, people told me "gee, you were so popular". Do you want to have friends or have "the cool" people for "friends". Why don't you work on being the person other people want to be friends with?
2006-09-15 09:18:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something you're both interested in and play on that. I'm guessing you're in high school - so, see if you like the same kind of music, or play the same sport or instrument.
I know you may feel pressure to "be cool" and fit in - but believe me, after school is out and you've both gone on with your lives, it's going to matter more what you do with your life after school than what you did with it while in school. Try to concentrate more on your current friends, and your grades - those are the really important things. I know you don't think so now, but in the future, you'll look back and see that I'm right.
As for Lil' miss popular - just be yourself. If she doesn't like you for who you are, then you don't need to be friends with her anyway.
2006-09-15 09:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by gatesfam@swbell.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know why you want to be popular you want to fit in be noticed and get all the cute guys it's not worth it they're always in a sticky situation at my school either all the popular girls are either ready to fight someone or arguing over guys.
2006-09-15 10:21:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldn't just use someone as a friend just because they are "popular". Maybe instead of trying to be "popular" just join clubs or sports, maybe student council. Those are good ways to meet new people.
2006-09-15 09:11:43 · answer #10 · answered by LB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋