I love my friend but she deosnt seem to care. I always have to make conversation she doesnt. I always have to send e-mails she doesnt. I said i love her but she doenst say that back. I cant keep it casual bcause im afraid that she wont want to be my friend anymore. I might make mistakes and so does she but that shouldent harm the relationship. I think i deserve more. It is so hard to let go.
2006-09-15 09:07:27 · 11 answers · asked by popstar452003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you do deserve more
2006-09-15 09:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say much when I don' t know how long you two have been friends, or if your relationship was strong to begin with and has tapered off, and so on. But you should just ask her. Ask her if the friendship means anything to her anymore because you don't want to waste time on a one sided friendship. But here is something else to consider. A friendship between a girl and a guy, and I'm assuming you're a guy just based on your chosen pic, those kinds of friendships can get complicated. Have you two ever dated? Has anything else changed in your life or hers. Like you starting a new relationship. I have lost a few friends in the past when I got married, guys who had been holding onto our friendship with the hope the some day we'd be more than friends, and then when that hope was gone the decided it was too painful to remain friends. So ask her, if your friendship is really important to you, than you owe it to her, to get to the bottom of your falling out an find out if it is temporary or permanent. And then decide where to go from there. Just because you decide that your friendship is pretty much gone doesn't mean that you have to forget her either. Still send her an email a few times a yr just to see how she is doing and so on. goodluck!
2006-09-15 09:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide. Do you want her friendship or are you using her friendship as a way of trying to maneuver into a romantic relationship. If you truely want her friendship, then you have to be blunt and let her know that you are hurt that she doesn't seem to care about your friendship and you have to put all the work into it. If you are hoping to make it become more than friendship my experience is you have neither a friendship or a shot at romance. You will have an easier time going out with a stranger than a girl who sees you solely as a friend and frankly you can't have much of a friendship with somebody if you build it on ulterior motives. Decide what you want from her (friendship or romance) and then go for it. If its romance you had better be blunt about it and don't hope she'll suddenly notice you and fall in love. If its friendship then fight for that as well. Good luck. I hope this works out for the best for you whatever that may be.
2006-09-16 03:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we first meet someone our desire to have a happy relationship over powers our objectivity. If we find someone that we are attracted to and seems at least is good for us, we usually ignore anything that points in the opposite direction. We just want some relationship to work and hopefully the stressful connections shared are not so painful that is it impossible for the two of you to be happy. Our spirits have definite orientations, and some of the ways we can be treated are very hurtful to our spirit. Treatment that demeans us; tries to stifle our expression of ourselves in life; that tells us hurtful untruths – all of these run strongly against the force of our spirit.
2006-09-15 09:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Popstar
Friendship and Realtionships go both ways its not fair when one party is showing 100% interest and the other one is showing 0% she doesn't sound like she is into you even after you have told her several times that you love her I feel that its time for you to go back being her friend or let her go for even as a friend she doesn't sound too nice !!
2006-09-15 09:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not interested hun.... truth be told. Let her go sweetie.. EVERYONE deserves better then that.
2006-09-15 09:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Stacey The Birthday Girl! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is being nice, forget it, its not gonna happen, if they dont call, or write their loss, well its your loss now, so deal with failure and move on
2006-09-15 09:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have some respect for yourself leave her
2006-09-15 09:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by Barson 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you and me both babe.
2006-09-15 09:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u deserve more then that!!!
2006-09-15 09:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by ♥l.0.v.E♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋