I should admit that people always find me a little difficult when we meet for the first time.Am so hesitant, i mean it happens almost always that i never take the courage to ask the first Question.Am to be a public figure in Future but am worried if this kind of Character has any positive aspects.Could it reflect something about my Pschological health?Could it be a defence mechanism against fear?It happens not only in my relationships with fellow men but with women as well regardless of Race,Age,Religion and social status.What can i do about it?
2006-09-15 09:00:22 · 8 answers · asked by Big J.cy 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I dont know if its psychological, but I would assume it is fear based. I used to be this way, especially having gone through a lot of ridicule in my early schooling experience. What I did to get over this is to just DO IT. When you meet somone, or even the cashier at the store you go to. Say, "Hi, how are you today?" You will find that nothing bad happens and that person is going to respond to you. Once you convince yourself that there is nothing to fear, you will eventually become much more outgoing.
2006-09-15 09:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by Peace Frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like any other fear, fear of social interaction (or the fear of rejection that could accompany it) can be overcome by practice. I used to be painfully shy. I would barely ever talk to anyone, and I was always afraid people were going to think I was stupid (even though I'm quite intelligent). However, after going to 12 different schools growing up and having to meet new people, that fear is mostly gone. You just have to throw yourself out there and know that the worst thing that can happen is that the person doesn't get you. That's easier said than done, but try it! You'll be surprised how many more people will positively react to you if you just say what's on your mind rather than holding back.
2006-09-15 09:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by deadwoodfan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's afraid to meet you for whatever reason.. Have you seen recent pictures of each other? Perhaps you're enjoying each other so much on the phone, maybe she thinks you won't like her when you meet her..there are so many maybes.. Why don't you just ask her point blank..What is the real reason why she won't meet you?..Ask her to please tell you the truth, and reassure her of your feelings for her..Sometimes you have to take the initiative..Good Luck!
2016-03-17 21:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans are very highly social creatures. It could be a fear of rejection or abandonment attached to the thought that you might say something wrong and they might dissaprove of you.
If you are culturally sensitive, hesitancy could just be you feeling your way around their cultural comfort zones ^_~
but from the sound of your question, i think it might be related to the first answer i gave
2006-09-15 09:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out information on "Avoidant Personality Disorder." I just resently checked it out and it describes me to a T! It's sort of a social phobia type thing. Basically, I beleive it is all in the way that we percieve ourselves. Check it out.............Hope this helps you.......Carrie
2006-09-15 10:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it simply means that you are an introvert and there's nothin wrong w that. but its better if u try to find the balance between introvert and extrovert. that is the ideal.
2006-09-16 07:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by deb_hwan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're just shy.
2006-09-15 09:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
past experiences
2006-09-15 09:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋