i have only been away from him for a month and i am already seeing someone else
2006-09-15 09:00:04 · 28 answers · asked by shadys_gurl4202004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NOTHING WRONG WITH IT.
2006-09-15 09:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, I am sorry about your separation or divorce. I would recommend you and your husband you left to only see other people casually, not intimately. If you always do this, you have a lot better chance to get back together, as unlikely as that might seem. If you want a Bible reference, look up Matthew 5:31,32.
And by the way, God wants all people to be saved through Jesus.
Avoid Jehovah Witnesses, etc.
God bless you in your struggle with this issue.
David.
2006-09-15 09:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by David 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's timetable is different. However, if you're still feeling the loss of the relationship, it might impede developing a healthy relationship with another individual. A general rule of thumb is to wait half as long as the relationship lasted with the last person before you date seriously again.
Then again, if it's not serious, and you make sure the other person knows that, there's nothing wrong with it.......It could be good for you to get out and socialize. Just be careful to not get hurt, or hurt the other person....and of course, use protection :o)
2006-09-15 09:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by inspectordirector 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you should not. It all depends on what type of person you are. If you do not care about your name and reputation then it is in order. I can already hear all the speculation of whether you were having an affair or not before you left your husband. If you gave the reasons for the split it might have been easier to answer your question.
2006-09-15 09:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you know the marriage is over in your heart and mind and there is no chance of reconciliation, then the divorce decree is just a formality....a piece of paper.
But what's the hurry? Use this time to truly figure out what you want in life and get your bearings straight. Jumping into another relationship so soon after a divorce complicates things and you bring fresh baggage into your new relationship that hasn't been fully resolved. It's a formula for failure.
I purposely did not date for almost a year so that I could get my sh*t together and figure out what I wanted in life.
Just my thoughts......
2006-09-15 09:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you and your husband split for, and how bad or good the split was, and if you're okay with it. If your split was amicable and for the best, and there are no hard feelings there, and you're both moving on, then by all means, date. But if you have even an inkling of love for the man, or if seeing him with other women will make you jealous, or if you have feelings of hatred for him, you shouldn't be dating untill you can resolve your feelings. Also, if you're dating just for the sake of being with someone because you're alone now without your husband, you need to stop and think about that. You can't be happy in a relationship till you are happy being by yourself.
2006-09-15 09:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by SassySours 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Modern women sometimes fall into the trap of waiting around to be rescued by the perfect man. But if you take a step back and look at what Prince Charming represents, you may be surprised by how overrated he really is.Everyone likes to be taken care of every now and then. But before you get your heart set on a chivalrous Prince Charming, carefully consider whether you believe that as a woman you always need to be taken care of by a man.
2006-09-15 09:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just know it's dating and nothing more. Going dancing or to dinner is okay. Odds are you are very vulnerable and your self-worth is taking a beating. Going out helps you feel better about yourself.
The Rule of the Rebound Thumb is wait one month for every year you were married. If you were married for eight years -- wait eight months before doing any serious dating.
2006-09-15 09:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really a matter of personal choice.
However, since you are already seeing someone so soon after the break-up of your marriage, it may mean that your feelings for your spouse are no longer as strong as they once were. Also bear in mind, he may already be seeing someone else as well.
2006-09-15 09:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you're ready to move on and have another relationship than do so. You're not hurting anyone and it's a good thing to pick up and get back out there when you're ready.
2006-09-15 09:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by kz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, because is probably the reason you left each other in the first, to find love somewhere else. Get it on, I bet he hasn't been waiting.
2006-09-15 09:45:52 · answer #11 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋