I just asked if I should marry my boyfriend when I get home from work tonight even though I knew and it wouldn't be special. Everyone got upset because I said that. I guess because this was the first question I have ever asked I didn't know to give more detail. I should have said he called me told me he was going to ask me when I got home and he didn't want to put any thought into how he was going to ask. Not only that he also made me pick out the ring and order it. All I was saying, should I say yes without knowing he really wants it and is making an effort??
2006-09-15 08:53:21 · 18 answers · asked by dogcrazy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Follow your heart... no one here has any idea of you and your boyfriend's status (age, time together, etc); so perhaps you two should just talk it out before answering.
2006-09-15 08:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, your boy fried is really stupid. When you meet him today, give him a warning: Tell him that tonight's proposal plan has been cancelled and that he has to make the proposal more sexciting and special, otherwise you won't even consider it.;-). All the best sweetheart.
What I would have done is: Arrange a special dinner with delightful wine and food. After that gift you a sexy lingerie. Wait for you freshen up and wear it. Them make passionate love to you and as you are on the cusp of of your orgasm, I will take the ring from underneath the bed and propose to you as you are finishing your orgasm.
Will you marry me mgpaddons and make me the luckiest and happiest person in the world?
2006-09-15 09:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he a clingie man. A real man DOSE not call you to ask you to MARRY him OMG i would have said NO just because of that is tacky and tasteless. A man plans a time and place has a ring in hand it's SPECIAL if he can't do that screw him. I would have cried out of DISAPPOINTMENT had i been proposed to over the phone and he did not even have a ring yet! it was on order SOUNDS like a GREAT START TO ME If your willing to sell yourself short. In general it's not the women's place to propose or pick her ring.
2006-09-15 08:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking total strangers about the answer to a proposal, crappy or wonderful, I would say you aren't too sure about your relationship, and maybe should turn him down for the time being. The fact that he wants to marry you says alot anyway. You should consider what type of person he is and maybe that is just the way he is. Asking someone for their hand in marriage isn't easy, so make him make it up too you one the honeymoon :)
2006-09-15 09:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you doubt he really wants to marry you? Because he has to follow some script on how to properly do this? Who wrote the rules anyway? If you want to marry him, then say yes - if not, then don't. If you feel hurt by how he has chosen to do this, then speak up NOW! Tell him you don't feel he has valued you enough. I take it this is not the only way he has made you feel less-than-special - if not, you'd say yes no matter how he asked you.
2006-09-15 09:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by Tamara A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not putting any thought into "how" he wanted to ask you isn't as big of a deal as not putting any thought into asking you. He could be being macho. Sounds like he lacks romance. If my husband had told me to pick out my engagement ring before we got married I wouldn't think twice, unless I had to pay for it.
2006-09-15 09:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by Keke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncertain about whether you want to marry him, you should not marry him. Once you get married there are no "do overs". So, you have to ask yourself: are these personality traits he exhibits now something you can live with for the rest of your life? Don't expect him to change after marriage -- real life doesn't work that way.
2006-09-15 09:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he could have made more effort in the event. To be proposed to is special. He is doing it like following instructions in a car manual.
The decision is really up to you.
2006-09-15 08:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to tell him that asking you to marry him is a momentus occasion and he needs to try and make it special for you.....Put it to him this way: If you're not important enough to deserve a special proposal, then how special are you really to him??....GL;)
2006-09-15 08:58:45 · answer #9 · answered by hotmama1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was very confused by your question. I guess I would say if you love him and want to marry him then just do it.
2006-09-15 08:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋