My wife wants to see my cell phone records. She thinks I've got a girlfriend and that I'm calling her 24/7. Just so you know, I don't have a girl friend. Should I allow her to be nosey and see my calling record or should I keep this private. I have nothing to hide, just don't think I'm setting the right precedence.
2006-09-15 08:50:04 · 22 answers · asked by Pilot 202 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's your wife; not your girlfriend. I'm not saying she has the RIGHT to see your phone records, but issues like that shouldn't be kept private or off limits between a married couple.
Also, if you want to get a good nights sleep... let her see the records.
2006-09-15 08:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-11 18:21:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, My x left me for another man but before she told me I found out. One of the easy ways is the cell phone records. Our bill were payed together so I had the chance to see them. Ya she was getting calls just before work, 10 min. after work, on breaks and wake up calls in the morning. I wasn't me making these calls. do the math. If you have nothing to hide you should be open and honest with every aspect of your realitionship, if not, you are the same person as that ***** I call my ex!
2006-09-15 09:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by daffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife probably has had past relationships that were not successful because of cheating. Or maybe her father cheated on her mother. Maybe you are doing something innocent that a cheater in her life has done. But if you are being honest and open with her and she still does not trust you, you need to find out why.
Most insecure people need constant reminders that they are loved. She may be insecure with herself and you. It may have absolutely nothing to do with you. She probably has a list, healthy or unhealthy, in her mind of the things required to show her she is loved. She may want something from you that you are not giving her because you just don't know to.
Sit her down and ask her why she thinks you are cheating on her. Be very kind when you do this. It may be something silly. Reassure her that she is loved and ask her what more she needs from you to show her how loved she is.
2006-09-15 09:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just let her this one time to ease her worry but let her know that once she knows she was wrong, she won't need proof again. Talk to her, she may have other things really bothering her and this is how she's acting out. Or just being very insecure which can be settled by talking. Always helps me feel better. Be careful too. They say that when someone accuses their loved ones of cheating, they themselves are or even thinking about it.
Bottom line, ease her mind this time. But let her know that your only doing it because of that reason and next time they stay private.
2006-09-15 08:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by Some Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have nothing to hide then why do you have a problem showing that to her? I know you want you privacy but this is your wife we're talking about. Believe me, it's worse to keep your privacy than to show the records to her on this issue.
2006-09-15 09:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps this is something she needs to feel more secure - for whatever reason, it seems like a small token to be able to just show them to her to appease her. Should these kinds of requests become a pattern, there might be something wrong. Since you don't seem to indicate a pattern here, I'd say show them to her gladly, tell her you love her, and that you have nothing to hide.
2006-09-15 09:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by Tamara A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You have some right to privacy. Tell her that you would feel violated if she looked at them, and that would damage your relationship. Tell her you aren't cheating, don't want to cheat, and if she will think about it, she already knows this. Don't show them to her. Spend enough private time with her alone in a continuous stretch, without the phone, for her to know you can't be calling someone else.
2006-09-15 08:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by missouri bulldog 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you keep them from her, she'll think something fishy is going on naturally. If you have nothing to hide, then show them to her. Besides, if she's your wife, she can get them without you , just got to call the cell phone service providder....I have done it before, but not to sneak on hubby, to find out about who used his stolen phone....GL;)
2006-09-15 08:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by hotmama1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show her the record, but then you need to talk about her suspicions.
Is she always like that, or did you do something fishy? Have you cheated before? Has SHE?? Sometimes people are suspicious because they are guilty---ask to see HERS, too.
2006-09-15 08:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋