I have not - that is just something I wouldn't do. I think that it is the worst way you can violate another person who has let you in emotionally and given you their love, heart & trust.
To me ~ it just makes no sense...people should just break things off if they desire someone else - really - it is that simple but the problem is that everyone makes it so much more complicated than that.
I believe that love, trust, respect, and communciation are at least 4 of the essentials for a relationship to be based on for it to work out - or to even exist. At least, these 3 things should exist if someone is in a relationship with someone else. If someone has an affair - these things are not present then. People have choices - they don't have to commit to someone - they can tell them that they wish to keep things open & date other people so I don't get it - why people do this to other people. It is cruel and says something about the self-repect they (don't) have, lack of respect for the other person and about their need for validation from other people. The love of one person - the attraction that one person has for them... it isn't enough. They need more. It is about the attention - how it makes them feel wanted, needed, and attractive. I just go by this unspoken rule - that I wouldn't do anything to anyone I would not want done to me - I would not want that pain or sense that I did something wrong, that I was inferior in some way... that doubt that would stay with you for years when you dated other people. It does not just hurt the person who gets cheated on - it hurts all the people they date in the future too - the questions, disbelief and so on. It never ends.
Even when something is lacking - I don't believe in it. Relationships take work - and the people that give up or come up with excuses should not be in one. That's it.. so no - no cheating for me -- ever. :o)
2006-09-15 20:36:34
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answered by Anonymous
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I didnt have an affair but I broke up with one guy and went out with the other the same week and that felt like cheating .The ex acted so hurt I just could not enjoy myself I felt like I had really hurt him more than I thought possible.Dont cheat.Its never worth it.
2006-09-15 15:50:23
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answered by butterflyspy 5
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Ive been married for 6 years and iv not had an affair,my husbands first wife had one,i have suffered greatly for this,im the one being hurt,im the victim of all the past deciet
2006-09-15 18:58:31
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answered by Anonymous
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yes i did, i really hurt my ex and 10 years on still feel guilty sometimes but, i wasnt happy, and the man i cheated with is the man of my dreams we are still together very much in love and very very happy together we also have 2 lovely kids. So although it was horrible at the time when my ex found out and i felt a right b**ch, Life is so short and i do believe you only have one crack at it and every one deserves to be happy , so yes it was well worth it.
2006-09-16 03:53:02
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answered by ambercleeve83 1
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I consider myself a one woman if I ever felt that I wanted to have an affair, this would mean I no longer loved who I was with. And I would have to tell her before I did I would owe her that
2006-09-15 16:01:09
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answered by robert d 4
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I know one thing, an affair will hurt someone, so why hurt someone you love?? Its not worth it in the long run. Exhaust every option to save your marriage before you throw it away for sex.......GL;)
2006-09-15 15:47:47
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answered by hotmama1 4
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Yes I had one. it was well worth it I am with that person still today He is my true love. My ex never found out he probably will soon from other friends because I am marrying him 2 two weeks. Oh well that's my life and I am happy. No regrets
2006-09-15 15:50:33
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answered by Raineybaby 4
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my boy friend did for nearly a year and yes he broke my heart, yes he turned my whole world upside down and yes i bloody hate him now heres what he got to write.
Life and relationships are never easy and straightforward often the case being very complex and the deeper you go and the more involved and in love you become involuntarily the more expectations and need you place on your partner
if good communication brake
i stopped him writing this. i broke down in tears xx sorry
2006-09-16 06:13:14
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answered by princess 2
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I was married to a cheater for 16 years, it was not fun. Then I cheated on my second wife, although I did not cheat with any married women, Now that I have finally found my one true love and have children, I realize how stupid I was back then.
2006-09-15 16:03:57
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answered by loser 4
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Everyone gets hurt when there is an affair.
2006-09-15 15:51:11
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answered by AVA 4
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