Should I say yes even though its not going to be special and I already know about it?
2006-09-15 08:34:40 · 39 answers · asked by dogcrazy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only if u truly loves him n want to spend the rest of ur lives 2gether.
best wishes if u say yes.
2006-09-15 08:38:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For you to have to ask this question, already tells me that you have doubts! I think you should just tell him that you just want to wait. It's not a NO! I feel you can love someone with all of your heart but there can be some small piece missing in-which it tells your brain that you're either scared for some reason or that you're just not ready. A lot of people marry for all the wrong reasons. It's either for security, children, because you've invested so much time with this person. Marry for the right reasons. Weigh your heart and not your mind. If you feel that the pros far outweigh the cons, then go for it! If not, then wait until you're comfortable enough to say yes. Don't rush into anything. If he truly loves you, he'll wait.
2006-09-15 08:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol omg... this is a classic example of a mixed priorities...
are u happy and appreciating the fact that this guy WANTS to marry you?? or is it more important for him to do things a "certain" way, to do things "your" way every single time. if that's true, he will always fail. cuz only YOU know what ur way is... he can guess, but he will never guess right.
i understand that u'd like things to be a surprise.. i agree in some way that i'd like my boyfriend to do things to surprise me... for example, i kinda liked this hat, and wished he got my hints and bought it for me. i wouldn't want to just go "buy me that hat" and he goes "ok". cuz i would never know if he wanted to do it, or he just did cuz i said. but think about the term Marriage: it means a heck of a lot more to a man, than buying a hat!!
from what i get out of the little u wrote, is it possible that u are kind of a control freak? that nothing is good enough for you? and that u don't communicate what u want, how u want it, but when u don't get it, u get upset? i bet u he doesn't want to mess it up, that's why he told u he's gonna propose!! that is dumb on his part, but he's doing it cuz he thinks it's what u want!!! so ur actually getting what u deserve. if u appreciated all the things about him and let him know that u love him no matter what, then it doens't matter if he does it a certain way, it matters that he loves u enough to marry u.
=T try working on ur communication, and appreciating each other even when u make mistakes. it's worth it for the one that u love.
2006-09-15 08:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if everyone on here told you to say NO, but you really love him and wanted to marry him, would you still say NO?
My point being, we do not know how you feel about your boyfriend. By all means if you are ready to become engaged then say Yes, it doesn't matter how they propose when you are in love. Just like the size of the ring doesn't matter. If you aren't sure of your feelings or are not ready to become engaged then say No, but be ready to explain to him why you feel that way.
2006-09-15 08:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether it is or isn't special shouldn't really be the issue here.
Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him?
Can you imagine not being with him?
If you answer these honestly then you'll know the answer.
At the end of the day whether you know or not that he is going to ask you - what does you head and heart say. If the only thing is how he has done it that is bothering you, is it worth throwing the love of you 2 together away and hurting the person you imagine growing old with.
2006-09-15 08:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by Emily L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him propose today, otherwise this may set the tone for your entire married life.
Presuming that you are only planning on taking this very important step just this once, it should be a special and memorable occasion for both of you - not just something that is casually sandwiched in between doing dishes and paying bills.
2006-09-15 08:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband gave me many clues starting 2 days before he was going to propose to me. You can't plan your own proposal unless you're marrying yourself. You can give ideas of what would be special to you, but it's all in his hands. If you love him don't let the "not so special proposal" be a deciding factor in whether or not you choose to marry this guy. He's probably exited and very nervous.
2006-09-15 09:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by Keke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a shame that you have learned ahead of time, especially if he is making such great effort.
Sadder still if someone felt they just had to tell you.
Say yes only if you love him in return with the desire to build a life and family together and for no other reason - otherwise you are cheating both of you of happiness.
If love back and ready to share life together - be thrilled regardless - for you both may be getting a prize and lots of happiness.
2006-09-15 08:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say yes unless you want to crush his little heart.Besides I think your exspecting a whole hell of a lot.Anytime a man asked you to marry him is romantic and special.Dont get caught up in details and lose a great guy.
2006-09-15 08:55:22 · answer #9 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my goodness. If you love him, then there would be no other answer than yes. If you're seriously asking thousands of people you don't know about this, then you don't deserve to be married. You don't deserve the proposal!!! If he's the one, then you should know without a doubt.
2006-09-15 08:39:15 · answer #10 · answered by verony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋