thank you everyone who gave a response?

Question

you know everthing you pplhave said to me has been in my head for years, but i dont know what to do, its so easy to say and we were broken up for 1 month with out speaking because of a restraingin order. ERight now im so confused, maybe its just that i dont want to be alone, and thats pathetic, and thank you to all who answered me

Answer 1

I did not see your earlier question until now and it is clear that those who answered gave really good advice. You are now able to articulate how you have realized this for a long time. It certainly helps to get your situation validated as the writers have done for you.

Now it is up to you. Do not be afraid people go through this all the time and as hard as it is at the start they all get through to the other side of the turmoil, drama and confusion. However to do this you must reach out for help to:
Family and firneds;
Organizations - go to your Court and check what services you can be referred to; Go online and see what is available to you in your County
Check listings for group and support servces that may be available. You will be surprised at how much there is that could be available to boost you up.
Think of your kids and make sure you fond the emotional support they will need----- it IS available as long as you can muster up the strength and energy to find it.

You are welcome to email me your county and I will be happy to give you further direction.

MOSTLY know that if you move forward your life WILL CHANGE; if you DONT explore your life will stay the same...easy choice eh?

PS Never ever be afraid of being alone, that is way you should seek outside support and help.

Answer 2

Being alone is hard, very hard, It means you have only yourself to turn to.

But being alone can also be a learning experience. It teaches you to take care of yourself in so many ways!

If u have to write down everything you like and dislike about being alone and re read the list.

You'll find you become a stronger person in general when u do this.

Answer 3

I really don't know if I answered you or not but you are welcome. Just reading what you have written seems like you were in a relationship that you didn't know what to do. Or maybe you knew what to do but couldn't do it. My relationship wasn't bad as in physical but it was mentally. I was married for seven years and 5 years into it i knew that it wasn't going to last and I knew that i needed to leave but then i got to thinking...what am i going to do when i am alone...how am i going to make it...etc. then one day i woke up and knew what I was going to do. I left May 2 and my divorce was final September. I have never been so happy in my life.

Answer 4

You're welcome and I hope that you are going to be happier now. Truly, it will be better than staying with someone that you have to have a restraining order to stay away from. Time heals and you will find that life can be a whole lot better with the RIGHT person. Take care of yourself and thank you for your response.

Answer 5

a restraining order proves there was a problem. Life is tough enough than to have to work with someone else's problems. Find someone you can get along with.

Answer 6

even though i did not answer your original question it is great to see moral value has not declined and being grateful is always recieved by those who give to others

Answer 7

Do you know who lil Jimmy Norden is?

Answer 8

I DIDN'T ANSWER YOUR ORIGINAL QUESTION BUT, WANT YOU TO KNOW THINGS DO GET BETTER AND YOU WON'T BE ALONE FOREVER, YOU HAVE TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST AND TAKE CARE OF YOU. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 9

no one wants to be alone, but you will survive,, I have been divorced twice now,, you survive. hang in there

Answer 10

No problem