he's 8 yrs older then i.... has his desire for sex left his side for ever ??
2006-09-15 08:23:59 · 31 answers · asked by jenny_bramm2004@yahoo.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry to hear about your dliema. I really hate it when a guy spends too much time watching Tv or being on the computer when theres a woman in the other room doing nothing. But you're asking what you can do. Well the obvious things other people would tell you is to either divorce him...but I don't think thats what you want. So you either find something on TV to watch with him, maybe get interested in the things that he's interested in. But if you don't want to do that I would sit down with him and talk to him about how you feel. The worst thing that could happen is he won't listen, and if that happens well I'm sorry for you. But if he listens and understands the situation, then hopefully it'll work out for the both of you. Good luck to you
2006-09-15 08:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by deais74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem isn't that uncommon. 25 yrs is a LONG time and you probably have lots of issues, along with the good stuff in your marriage. He may also be suffering from depression. Men commonly lose sex drive AFTER AGE 18! So don't expect miracles...! You should tell him how you feel, not in a blaming way, and see what he says. If he's silent and/or says he doesn't know, suggest couples' counseling. Otherwise, he'll just get deeper and deeper into his unhealthy way and drag YOU with him!
2006-09-15 15:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been married that long, chance are you're over 45, and he may have az very common problem - low testosterone. As men age, their natural testosterone level diminishes (as does their sex drive, then). There are plenty of options to increase his testosterone naturally - a doctor can do a simple blood test to find out his levels, and increase it if necessary. Never assume it's simply a lack of interest in you. If the change in him is sudden, something more serious could be happening. Rule out the physical and the psychological (i.e. depression) before blaming your relationship.
2006-09-15 15:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by Tamara A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him with the t.v. and go and do things outside of the home. Stop being readily available. If ya wanna be spiteful then take the remote control with you when you go out and have some fun.
2006-09-15 15:35:36 · answer #4 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always love him..
Try your best to arouse him,,, in the morning..
But do not be so sad or bad about it..
It is as if you are asking me that,, because I am that..
After being sick I did not have that arousal and my wife is still so hot...,,
But as we say where there is a wlll there is a way..
Do not so be depressed,,, find a way, without cheating... you can still enjoy it both...\
Good luck and God bless.
P.S,, BTW, we were married for 35 years now.
2006-09-15 15:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been married 20 years, my best advice would be to try to get involved in watching tv with him....maybe make it a night u go out to dinner and get home just in time to watch his fav program....during commercials let him know your enjoying spending some time with him and what he enjoys...then let on u would like him to got to bingo. etc to share something u enjoy.....take him back to when u first fell in love.....or something that happened just between the two of u that noone elsoe knows about ....one that u can laugh about really hard and tell him u love him still...........but if he can't meet u half way u need to think about what u want now...or basically let him know truthfully how u feel....
2006-09-15 18:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by imhogwilde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be afraid of failure. Is he due for a physical? Call the doctor and discuss your concerns privately before his doctor's visit. Let the doctor suggest appropriate medication or treatment, if required.
Good luck!
2006-09-15 15:30:14 · answer #7 · answered by love2travel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not necessarily. You need to try to spruce things up. Catch him off guard, this usually perks men up.
The problems you are facing are happening everywhere. You fall into a routine. Dont try the romantic stuff... this works on women not men. Do something wild, or try to seduce him. That is the best thing to do.
2006-09-15 15:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just take a nice hot bath and sit next to him completely naked and watch TV with him.
2006-09-15 15:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. There may be something bothering him. Or try to spice things up a little by roleplaying. Pretend like you are having an affair, with each other.
2006-09-15 15:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by April G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋