if so, how do u get rid of it from sum1 25 yrs of age? beat it out of em? i need help with sum1 who makes my life a misery! and if you're gunna say, slowly but surely, then how. using miind tricks? that person makes my life hell with her jelousy.why is she sooo jelouse. if i dint have something, then i wudnt be jelouse but why is she?
2006-09-15 08:17:10 · 18 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Future psychologist speaking: many of the previous answers regarding self-esteem are pretty on target. People usually experience jealousy as part of inadequacies in their ability to acheive their personal goals. The way that they express it towards you is just a form of acting out on those feelings.
As far as getting back at her goes, you can do one of two things (and if you ask for my opinion i'd say the first over the second). You can completely ignore her. Being ignored is hard to deal with and you've got to have a very strong will not to take it personally - no matter how she appears to take it, she will be hurting. The other, and severly harsher way of dealing with the situation (whatever it is), is to literally point out their insecurities to their face, possibly in front of others. I'm not trying to start a fist fight here, which again is why I suggest the first. But the second works just as well.
2006-09-15 08:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy comes from the sense of her own insecurity and low self-esteem. She reinforces her own self-loathing by unconsciously regarding others as "better" than herself. This provides her with the justification that they are the ones who are generating a superior or "better than you" attitude, hence she will criticise and condemn.
Your friend should take a long hard look at herself. She needs to identify what it is about her that is good. What talents does she have? Is there some part of her life that can be channelled toward doing good for others? She needs to achieve something she can be proud of in order to raise her self esteem.
If she cannot manage this, then she will suffer in the long run, because she will continue to project her self loathing onto every one else she tries to have a friendship with in life, leaving her a lonely, unhappy person. Then I would say some people who feel excluded or alienated in such a way are more susceptible to joining extremist groups in order achieve some sense of identity, belonging and acceptance.
If you cannot help her, then you must find another friend, I'm sorry to say.
2006-09-15 10:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy stems from one person wanting something that another has. It shows a lack in the person who is jealous. She envys you, what have you got that she doesn't.
She could have low self-esteem. She could be competitive and want to be better than you.
Often though, it is showing a victim trait and this can be draining on you. Particularly if she is making you feel guilty for feeling good, or having things that she doesn't. Afterall you are not responsible for her feelings. It is her reaction to what you have, or how you are able to hold yourself.
If you feel strong enough, call her on it - front her and tell her how her jealousy is effecting you. If she continues to do it, then ask yourself what you are getting out of this friendship. We usually endure these situations out of fear of hurting someone elses feelings. Thing is you're feelings are being effected too. Be strong and get your friend to look at what she is doing. You may be doing her a favour.
Good luck.
2006-09-15 08:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mercury 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 00:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jelousy is 110% mental. It comes from people's insecurities and low self esteem. You probably can't do anything about it, but keep pointing out things SHE has you don't (even if you fake it) so she feels equal. Until she gets over her insecurities, which you cannot do for her, its hopeless. Just like a jelous boyfriend- it won't change.
2006-09-15 08:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by Slutlana 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some people are just mad, you be happy ok, and im telling you now she will never stop, you either stay away from her, and cut her off totally from your life ok, I know from experience be glad you have the things you want , why should someone be jealous ,its a bad thing , stay away from her, I think she lives with you, then get help, a jealous and I mean jealous person is much worser then a person any other person., because they have all this hatrad and feeings of hate, for you , dont ever say WHY ARE you jealous of me, ESPEPECAILLY if shes relative, just stay away from her, and be ready if she attacks, please dont laugh, at this, jealous people are serious bad people .
2006-09-15 08:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey but there's nothing you can do to change her heart... Maybe you should just cut contact with her way down or stop seeing her if possible... If she actually harasses you somewhere like a store or school turn her b*tch -*ss in! She has to grow up to change and you can't force that... Best of luck to you!
2006-09-15 08:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by Grimm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've read it stems from perceived inadequacies that one may have about themselves in comparisons to others or a "target". In a sense, it could be evolutionary, or some messed-up survival instinct that humans have...
2006-09-15 08:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by incognitas8 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy comes from greed, selfishness, ignorance, obsession, psychosis, delusional thinking. Why not share a good thing?
2006-09-15 08:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it could be from ex: say an girl had an ex bf or husband and he cheated on her for years and she didnt know...the she dumped him and after many years got a new bf...but because of her previous husband she now thinks will this new one do it? certain behavior may remind her...make her jealous and possessive. in life we get taught everything..it is not in our genes
2006-09-15 08:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋