i asked a question about having urges to be with other women but dont do it cuz i love my wife and want to be a good husband and i got some very good answers now i just want to know if you think my wife has those same urges, i ask her all the time and she says no, that she is completely satisfied sexually and emotionally,if thats true, why do i feel like that cuz i know i am satisfied sexually and emotionally too?
2006-09-15 08:13:49 · 16 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
men are visual creatures. They fall in love with their eyes. Women are more likely to fall in love with their ears. Your wife's sex drive will never equal yours, so don't worry...she's telling you the truth. Stay strong, a good women is worth it.
2006-09-15 08:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by mimi22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have different ways of looking at things than women do. Your wife may feel that way sometimes but does not take note of it like you do because she is actually not looking at other people as a prospective interest but just as an interesting or sexy figure not as a partner. Whereas, men look at women as sex objects constantly. Women admire the outward appearance but men admire what it would be like to be sexual with that person.
Yes, your wife may have urges to look but never to touch if she is happy at home. You, on the other hand, may have the same feelings and I am happy to hear that you do not take your interest further. Keep your wife happy and enjoy what you have because life is too short to make awful mistakes such as adultry. It is just not worth it. You have to appreciate what you have before you lose it because if you lose it, you will be sorry. Like the old saying goes, "You don't miss what you have until you lose it!".
You are one of the blessed ones that actually have someone who cares. Keep clean and stay happy.
2006-09-15 15:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by BrowBrat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I m really interested in your question, cause I am supposed among the people who are sharing this issue...I ve got a bf. I love him so much , i know him for a long time -over 11 years, but I m not satisffied sexually. I asked him the smae question million times, but his answer was similar to your wifes. "No, I am satisfied." that was so bad answer for me, cause i have fallen in love with another guy, older then he is, he gave me a lot..gave me not only pleasure, but feeling, I am great. and I really needed it.
So, I understand you. Hey guy, please, do not do the same mistake as me, still hearing the answer NO, I am satisfied. Sometimes you are allowed to ask your wife...What is satisfied with? why? what does she like, etc. ? I think the dialogue is the best way how to do your relationship healthy without mistakes :) I really think everybody has urges... we are only people and have needs...
2006-09-15 15:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think men think different than women. I don't have the urge of being with other men even though I find some of them attractive. I am very satisfied in my relationship in every accept. But I just don't get those urges. I guess women see things differently. We devoute ourselves to our husbands and just see you guys as our one and only. Not that guys don't, but the world portray men like its ok to have other women and its ok to look at other women sexually, etc. And I don't know, but maybe that influence is in most men without them even knowing it. I don't know if I really make sense, but I hope I helped.
2006-09-15 15:30:29 · answer #4 · answered by LatinPrincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might have the urges but, might not want to tell you! I think we all wonder about what it would be like to have a fling w/ someone you find very attractive. But nonetheless, if you are truly in love with your spouse then would would never act on it. There will always be someone that you are attracted to, as it is for everyone! Just because you are married doesn't mean that you have to stop being attracted to people, just don't act on it!
2006-09-15 15:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As human beings, we all have a variety of urges whether we act on them or not is our choice.
We feel this way as it is human nature! It sounds to me as tho you are a very loving man in many ways and for those of us who are loving, we want to share that love with as many people as possible.
Don't mix up sex and love, they are 2 totally different things!!
I'm wondering why you are questioning yourself when all seems so good in your marriage? Do you know how many people are miserable in this world and would love to step into your life?
It does seem to me that you have some deeper emotional issues you need to bring to lite and resolve.
Be happy with what you have, and leave it at that.
2006-09-15 15:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by jelli_bean_36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest and truthful, I've been married a long, long time and I have never had the urge to sleep with anyone other than my husband. I don't view sex as a casual thing. I don't trust anyone else to get that close to me.
2006-09-15 15:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women don't cheat unless there are some serious problems...and I'm talking about the majority...not the mindless sluts that will screw even their bedroom door. If she's content you have nothing to worry about.
2006-09-15 15:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it`s just like eating crackers if you have had cheese crackers for a Long time, after awhile even a saltine sounds good
2006-09-15 15:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by animalloverinbama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps your just thinking that the grass is greener, there are alot of good points in being married you ought to concentrate more on what you have
before you loss it
2006-09-15 15:17:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋