and she sneaks to talk to him
2006-09-15 08:02:29 · 14 answers · asked by Jarrell B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Unless the guy is abusive or something, there's no reason why she can't be friends with him. You don't have to like it, but you should accept that it's her choice who she wants as her friends.
It IS her choice, after all. You can't stop it, you can just drive her to sneak. That doesn't do anyone any good. If the guy is no good, then she may be making a mistake - but that's how she will learn. She's entitled to make her own mistakes. You made yours, didn't you?
It's really not that big of a deal, as long as there aren't any permanent consequences. If the guy is no good, she'll realize it soon enough and move on.
2006-09-15 08:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that its fair you don't agree w/ her being Friends w/ her ex. Big, but, I think that she has no business creeping behind your back to talk to him either. I also think you have every right to feel that way. You r human. And they once had some feelings for each other. That kind of stuff always makes me feel weired, but I love and trust my husband so I try not to harp on that stuff. I am very good friends w/ one of my exs but I love him as JUST a friend and it didn't work out the first time so I have no reason to try it again. And I love my husband more than anything. I hope you and your girl can find some kind of mutual agreement or you may not be in your relationship much longer.
2006-09-15 08:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by RASBERRI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand why you wouldn't want her to have anything to do with him, but it's not fair that you ask her not to be friends with him, provided that it is only a friendship. There are alot of ppl who just want to be friends. as a matter of fact some of the best friends are of the opposite sex, because they are easier to talk to and understand her problems, being as it is coming from a male. But she shouldn't be sneaking around to see him. don't put her in that position. trust her. it will build a greater bond between the two of you.
2006-09-15 08:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not be attentive to what he needs. He in all probability likes the belief of having a girl buddy yet would particularly no longer have the household projects that is going with being in a dating. And/or perhaps he'd choose to stay acquaintances and that variety into an attempt to attain out.
2016-10-01 00:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by wiemer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't see anything wrong with you be upset, the reason being I'm a woman and i know we can be sneaky and freaky keeping it real!! But if you trust your lady there's no reason for you to be mad especially if the ex know about you.I don't know the whole story but for thus far if she's sneaks and talk to him i would talk to both of them just be a man about it no offense..Good Luck
2006-09-15 08:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by sexychocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably only "sneaks" because you don't like it. People can be friends with exes: and if they really are involved, there's not much you can do to stop it, right?
2006-09-15 08:04:43 · answer #6 · answered by netpetman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last part of your question / statement is a matter of concern.Why is she sneaking away to "talk" to him. There is something fishy on the go here. You will have to let her decide who she wants to spend her future with.
2006-09-15 08:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it depends what kind of relationship she is having with him. She needs to understand that it is something that is bothering you and that you are not comfortable with her speaking to him. If she continues to sneak to talk to him, you should let her go and find someone else.
2006-09-15 08:07:01 · answer #8 · answered by Amy H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they have a child together? Is there another reason family situattion where her parents or what ever still communicate with him? Sometimes it takes a while to let go of the other person. Maybe it was that they were better friends than lovers, you see?
2006-09-15 08:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by lisapj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not fair to you that she still talks to him i had this problem but the other way around my significant other used to talk to his ex and i didnt like it because i knew she wanted him back. I expressed that i didnt like it and he stopped maybe you should talk to her and tell her you dont like it. She might think he just needs a friend but he can find other friends she is your gf she should respect your wishes
2006-09-15 08:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋