my significant other and i have just moved we changed his cell phone number and gotten a new home phone just so his ex wouldnt find where he lived. He had since stopped talking to her but she is the type of person that cant let go. He had expressed that he never told her that he was going to stop being there for her. I think she shouldve gotten the hint after a couple of months i guess not. Now she is stressing out his friend with threats of she is going to find him and start bothering him again. My question is should i let him call her and tell her that he isnt going to be her friend he doesnt want anything to do with her and he isnt going to be there for her? Or should i leave things the way they are and let her find us and then get a restraining order or something
2006-09-15 08:01:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i really apperciate all these answers
2006-09-15 08:10:00 · update #1
i know he hasnt talked to her for the fact she started school and his aunt goes to the same one and they have talked his aunt in turn talks to his mother and says that his ex has asked about him because its been awhile since she has seen him or talked to him and she just wants to know what he is up to
2006-09-15 08:17:42 · update #2
I think if you let it get to the point where she has hunted him down and you now need a restraining order, it has gone on entirely too long when you could have nipped it in the bud from the very start. He needs to call her and tell her exactly where she stands with him. Some people don't get "the hint" and they need absolute and definite closure. Have him be firm and direct and whatever he does, do not lead her to believe they will be good friends in the future. It is over. Period.
p.s. Don't forget to block your number before calling!
2006-09-15 08:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by Zelda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She only does what your significant other lets her get away with. What has your boyfriend said or done to her to make her think that its o.k. for her to keep contacting him. How many people do you know that will take the time and effort to track down someone who has 1) moved 2) changed his cell 3) changed his house number and 4) has a girlfriend? Maybe you should try to read a little more between the lines and see if you absolutely positively think that your boyfriend has no dealings with her like that. No, he should not call her. If she finds you then yes go get a restraining order.
2006-09-15 15:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♪ TrickNice ♪♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible to file a police complaint for trespassing or making threats against him? If she has a police officer show up at her door, she may finally stop this. Also, it wouldn't cost you anything to file a police complaint versus having to get a restraining order at court. And plus, filing police reports would be good evidence in support of a restraining order.
2006-09-15 15:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you let him call her but from a private number so that she doesn't know were he is? Then this way if does find him and keeps it up and it goes to court you can say that he did tell her that he did want anything to do with her. When he calls he should try to tape it so there is no questions. If she doesn't back off then, then you need to look into the fact she might be stalking him.
2006-09-15 15:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait till the harassment begins. Then tell her that a continuance of it will result in a restraining order. If she persists, get one.
Do not play games, dangle carrots in front of her, needle her etc. Some people are very dangerous. Did you see Fatal Attraction?
2006-09-15 15:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like option 2 better. I don't think it's a good idea to call her as this will only give her more ammo to keep bothering him. Besides, she's his ex. Unless they have a child together, he has no business calling her at all.
If she does call, file harassment charges on her.
2006-09-15 15:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do u hve to be the one to call and tell her that. He should be the 1 doin that. Unless he's afraid of loosing her friendship or something. Something doesnt sounds right here hon!
2006-09-15 15:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by Miss-Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd get a restraining order now and make sure she gets a copy of it.
2006-09-15 15:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by big d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm reality check..... get the restraining , request address be withheld, restrain from calling friends or whoever and then live your life....much simpler way I think... stalking is still stalking under any law
2006-09-15 15:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by lisa n florida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not let him call her, that is enabling,, get a restraining order on the wacko
2006-09-15 15:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋