I have been married for more that 10 years and sex has never been that good. My wife is not really into it. I asked her if it is me and she said no. I figure she just is not interested. BTW I am 35
2006-09-15 08:01:04 · 46 answers · asked by youngfinedudmomo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Was that a gay sex buddy you were looking for...you did say buddy!!!
PS maybe you need a mistress...
2006-09-15 08:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by joy ride 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all your relationship shouldn't be based on sex and if you have been with her for 10 years you can do without a sex buddy. Sit down and talk to your wife and see you can come to some agreement about you all sex life. But if you are going to cheat you need let your wife go because the heartache to her wouldn't be fair or right. Think about it if you love her and don't want to see her hurt you can work with her.
2006-09-15 08:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by Honey Eyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh...why would you stay married? Kids? Personally I believe that you need to do what is right for yourself. My daughter's father and I were never married, and we have a great friendship. My daughter is awesome, very well behaved, and knows we both love her.
I know sex is not the most important thing, but if I were in a relationship, it would be pretty important to me! Especially at the age of 35.
Wow, I just can't imagine being in a relationship and not having sex.
Good luck!
2006-09-15 08:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by cey12000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do something on the side with out your wife knowing.
Maybe you should look at your actions and words before jumping to conclusions. If you make your wife feel attractive, sexy and wanted it will change her hole attitude. Suprise her with flowers or whatever her favorite things are.
You're wife said it wasn't you, so find out what's going on with her. Maybe you need to concentrate on her and help her find a different side. Some woman don't enjoy sex because they haven't ever experienced what sex really is. Take the time and effort to change and fix things with your wife before you make any drastic desicions.
2006-09-15 08:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say from your question that it's not your wife that has the problem. Perhaps if you were to spend your time figuring out how to have a better intimate life with her instead of posting questions like this, you'd have a better sex life. No wonder she's not interested. I can't imagine a woman of quality who would be.
2006-09-15 08:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by Tamara A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already have TWO you give up the right for casual sex when you said I do. BTW "IT'S NOT YOU MEANS - ITS YOU" sharpen your skills get some porn or some sexual story books at the porn store and read them most of them are wrote by women and it is what they like it is like a owners manual to the female mind of sexual desires. Why would you want to risk bringing some disease home, this isn't the 80's-90's like we were used to there is some sh*it out there now a shot of penicilian won't fix LOL and GOOD LUCK
2006-09-15 08:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by Best answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If sex has never been that good-- and your wife isn't into it-- and after asking her if it's because of you, and she said it's not--then you figure she just isn't interested.
(mmmmmm, let me think.)
Here's what I think. I think she doesn't want to hurt your feeling. I think you may be a selfish lover. I think that you think it's all about you. It may even be that you expect her to perform in ways that she might find distasteful or unpleasant. You may be inadequate in one or two or more ways. Just because sex hasn't been that good, doesn't mean it's because of her. Also, if you indulge in adult films, do not expect your wife to outperform the women that you view on the screen. That's unrealistic.
It almost seems that you are blaming your wife and trying to find fault with your sex life in order to justify your urge to step out of your marriage. If you do that, you will plunge into hot water. You can't have it both ways. You have to romance your wife and make things right.
2006-09-15 08:16:26 · answer #7 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh the really sucks. I don't know what to tell you I mean I wouldn't want my husband to have a sex buddy. Ask her if maybe she would like to try something new or maybe do something romantic like get a room in a nice hotel and put candles and rose petals everywhere and make the mood a sexual one. You should try new things and hopefully this would lighten up the spark.
2006-09-15 08:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by LatinPrincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats horrible, just because your wife isnt interested doesnt mean you go out and cheat, whats the point in being married then, you swore for better or worse and you're showing your true colors now. if you want to have sex with other people, get a divorce, you cant have your cake and eat it too, you sound selfish and like a typical immature guy. i feel sorry for your wife.
2006-09-15 08:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by ExplainThisClarissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand. I have been married for 10 years. The sex is good, but only about once a month....
2006-09-15 08:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by tear streaked angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get real when you have been cheated on it is like someone cut your heart out if the sex is no good and that is all to your marriage get a divorce and find you as many sex buddies as you would like. Marriage is suppose to be sacred it is suppose to mean something.
2006-09-15 08:51:37 · answer #11 · answered by tryme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋