i am a newly outed gay male of 45 years and have been seeing another guy who is 25. is this too young or does age really matter?
2006-09-15 07:56:50 · 36 answers · asked by coronabear44 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
for gays 100 years old is the age you can start
2006-09-15 07:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Maturity equality is more important than the age itself. Compatibility is either there, or it is not. So I think that the age is not the issue itself, but the factors that make a relationship work. I have been with men of different age groups, and sometimes it was a factor; other times it was not. Definitely on an individual basis, when it comes to this issue! Do not let it stop you from proceeding, if things are working out well for you both!
2006-09-15 08:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is a good question. He's legal, so that's not an issue. As a general rule I'd say that he's too young, but I don't know either of you. If he's mature and really interested in an older lover, it could work. But get beyond sex. How are the two of you on music, family, sports and recreation and other interests? Once the intial weeks and months have passed, there's a lot more to life than sex.
2006-09-15 08:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When I was 23 I dated a man in San Francisco that was 56. I couldn't get over the fact that he was older than my father, and had children my age.
At this point in my life, 31, I don't see older men as father figures. I don't date younger either. I try to stick within a 5 year range each way. I'm fickle about things.
I also find that sometimes, older men are trying to relive their youth vicariously through younger. Nothing is more obvious when you see a 20 year old with a 60 year old. SORRY. In my opinion, thats just not right.
2006-09-16 09:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is ok. Me and my bf have a bigger age gap, and we are just fine.
Its not the different age but the different interests that may be a problem.
As long as you are not likely to get bored with each other, you will be fine.
We have been together for almost a year now, and I have found more common interests with him than my friends.
Music, politics, movies etc.
If you fit like people, then age is really just a number.
2006-09-15 08:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by Nostromo 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I dont think that 45 and 25 is too much of a gap. I think he is old enough and hopefully adult enough by that age to be in a mature relationship, if that in fact is the kind of relationship you want. I think younger than 20 would just be strictly sexual.
2006-09-15 08:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I'm 30 and my husband is 60....we have never found so much happiness in life than we have with each other.
Ultimately, age isn't an issue unless one of you has issues with it. My previous boyfriend (of a 7-year relationship) is 24 years older than I am...and age never played a part in any issues.
Best to both of you!!
2006-09-15 10:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by Vancouver-snuggy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
THIS age difference doesn't matter. Both are above the age of consent.
BUT-- You may have difficulties relating the your age difference. His maturity level, life experiences, interests, friends and activities are possibly very different from yours. This can make it hard for you to stay together.
Good Luck though!
2006-09-15 08:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by theobromo77 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Doesn't matter to me but then again I'm a 41 year old woman dating a 28 year old man. It seems to work for us. Don't worry about it. In today's society I'm thinking that age difference is not going to be your biggest obstacle to over come.
2006-09-15 08:00:22 · answer #9 · answered by to_sassy4_u 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
No that age gap is fine as long as both of you are at the same level of maturity and interest. My boyfriend's 46 and I'm 26 and I've never been happier.
2006-09-15 08:19:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
In my opinion, as long as you are both 21 or older and have common interests and pretty much the same energy levels it doesn't matter. This going for both straight people and gay people.
2006-09-15 08:03:50 · answer #11 · answered by hollyhock 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋