Are parenting styles, attitudes abut discipline, etc effected SIGNIFIGANTLY by age group / Generation?

Question

(I.E. Gen-y) ages 5-25 vs (GenXers) ages 27-46. Where I come from (southern USA Gen-Xer) kids/young people respect their elders stepparent of not, period. A lot of Gen Y ppl that I know say things about how they kids don’t have to show respect to a stepparent. Being married to the kid's bio parent kids ARE allowed not to like him/her but they must show respect...Why hurt your bio parent with disrespectful behavior toward his/her life partner?! Another thing I’ve heard several 20-somethings say is that even in blended families adults/kids have to give respect to get it just like in business situations. I agree somewhat but this has nothing to do with a family unit. If this was so how would teachers get children's attention to teach them? She/he would have to first "earn" the child's respect or they would not grant it and listen and listen in class. If respect in step families is “give to get” why do ppl RARELY mention the KIDS earning the stepparent’s respect? Feedback please?

Answer 1

Oh yeah, our generation (Xers) and previous ones are/were way more demanding of respect from kids, and kids are just becoming more and more disrespectful because the younger generations of parents feel it's not as important to respect their elders.

My parents had to address adults as Ma'am or Sir and their parents weren't even allowed to talk to adults unless spoken to so the rules are obviously getting more loose for kids relating to adults.

I mean, I don't think kids should sit quiet and not speak until spoken to, but I also don't think they have the right to be rude to adults no matter how little they know them. Adults should be honored, but not allowed to abuse kids. Kids do have aright to speak up, but in a way that shows they are subordinate to adults.

If people would teach their kids some respect, we wouldn't have half of the issues with kids and drugs, violence and crimes that we have today.

Answer 2

Way to go girl you nailed l allot in a short time... You are form the South and what I call culture of it's own . So if you like to go deeper
look the area in which a child is from...
LA CA is much different than a Independence, Kansas, who much different than a Dallas TX. then put these towns together and the country the parents were living in their young years....Africa...India...US ..south America again you get different ways to teach children how to react

respect comes from commutation first by adults
The US is a melting pot mix them altogether and we have confused children if the adults do take time to talk.

Answer 3

I am a gen xer and I was raised to have UTTER respect for EVERYONE children and especially adults. I think the south is more "old fashioned" generally speaking when it comes to manners. I had to call people Miss or Mr. and then thier first name, I don't teach my kid that, but he does have to say Ma'am and Sir, please and thank you etc, etc. Not formal, but polite.

With blended families it is up to the birth parent to set the standards on both sides; how the kids treat the step parent and how the step parent treats the kids. I was always respectful of my stepdad but he HATES me. I say hello, he grunts. He and my mom have been together for 20 years and he and I have NEVER sat down to talk. I was 10 when he came into my life and he has never shown me basic respect. If my mom went out of town, he wouldn't feed me!!!!!! Lucky my ma raised me right or I might of set his house on fire!!!!!!

It goes both ways and its the PARENTS of the 20 somethings who have them thinking that respect of step families isn't necessary. you need to respect the people you live with PERIOD, step parent, real parent, friend of parent, aunite, old lady who wondered into you life, street urchin, who ever.