Yesterday, i was talking to him on the phone and telling him that im going to bed because it was quite late, and he replied "go to bed, i'll join you in a bit"
I just went silent and eventually said "bye" and then he replied "keep the bed warm for me" - he was laughing so i'm assuming he was just joking....but i didnt expect that!!
So is that normal...? o.O
2006-09-15 07:49:06 · 30 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He's flirting,.. enjoy it,... but if you think he's a great guy and you can see inside yourself, you'll know if you have any deeper-than-normal feelings for him,.. so go have fun,. flirt with him a little too; but sit and chat with him so you don't end up misinterpreting anything,.. you know it'll end up in tears if it all goes a way you weren't ready for,...
:o)
2006-09-15 07:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by wildimagination2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, wake up! he was just testing you to see what you will say. Since you didn't put him in his place he is going to try it again. Joking or not, you should have told him that your bed was made for one not two, until you get marriage then you will keep the bed warm for your husband. Girl, don't be so easy and open. Always put guys in there place when they disrespect you. Yes, this is normal for a guy to test you this way.
2006-09-15 14:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by Cinnamin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax. He was probably 'half-joking', if you know what I mean. I think you should just not be so serious? If you want guy friends then you're going to have to deal with some crude things every now and again. Personally I think 'I'll join you in a bit" is kinda funny I might use that one :)
2006-09-15 14:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by niwriffej 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep it`s normal. He is saying " I would love to go to bed with you, but if I joke and you say no well I won`t feel so bad" He is putting out the feelers just laugh and say no we are too good friends for that, lets him down gently but puts out the message not interested. Well thats if your not.
2006-09-15 15:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys will make certain jestures to women friends to feel confident about themselves. If he was standing in front of you, he probably wouldn't have the balls say it. Phones and the web help diffuse any embarrassment they may feel. Don't worry about it. He's probably trying to just flirt with you. "Practise makes perfect", people say. If anyone does say things that make you feel uncomfortable, then you should say and clarify the situation with them. If he's a nice person, he'll understand, and you can then progress with your friendship.
2006-09-16 07:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by Fragile Rock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there.
the guy your talking about is using a different way or rought to be intimate with you he is not your friend just to weak to state his true feelings...
I have and still have plenty of female friends but the only way nobody gets mis-understood or hurt is to be clear from the outset.. as to the nature of the friendship..
good luck
2006-09-15 14:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by Adrian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man I can say that he is coyly trying to show interest and testing the waters. By acting like it is a joke he is not putting himself totally out there to be shot down.
2006-09-15 14:51:58 · answer #7 · answered by Peter B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Real friends are usually very few in number.The male friend is obviously finding you sexually attractive,and that is not wrong.Why should he not let you know,it is easier for you,the options were for you, as I see it;
Let him know how you feel about him sexually,
keep him guessing how you feel.
Tell him you see him as a friend not a sexual partner
End the friendship.
He was testing the water maybe he would find it more difficult face to face.
2006-09-15 15:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by John G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal, but it wasn't a joke. He was laughing at your confusion about whether he was joking or not. He was probably hoping you'd say, "okay", but he knew that if you were offended he could always say it was just a joke.
2006-09-15 14:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by Mark M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, unfortunately, it's quite normal.
He was putting out a feeler, to see if you would happily "put out", even though that's not the best thing for you...
I hope you can find a man who will put You first and think of Your needs, not the usual, who is only "in it" for himself.
2006-09-15 15:05:29 · answer #10 · answered by mrearly2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋