I can't stand it when we are intimate. It's not the same anymore and I hate it. We've been married for 3 years. Is this normal?
2006-09-15 07:42:35 · 21 answers · asked by Totalconfusion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forget marriage counselling or divorce attorneys and do not buy into the sarcasm of those answers that just want points. In my work I hear this a lot. My advice is for you to see a therapist on your own before talking to him to try and get to the reasona why you are feeling this way. Maybe prior abuse in your life? Maybe psychological stuff coming up that is subconscious etc. Or maybe there are overt and obvious things that with the right questioning an expert can help you get to the bottom of. Sometimes giving birth can cause a negtaive reaction to a partner. That said, after you have delved into yourself and you have more insight then contemplate whether you need a marriage counsellor or an attorney.
2006-09-15 07:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by meldorhan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was dating my husband I loved kissing him. Soon after we were married I didn't like it so much anymore. I have been happily married for 10 years now and love my husband more than anything in the world. My husband feels bad that I don't like kissing like I used to, but we have talked about it and he understands that I still love him. I think it all started when I got pregnant with our first. Just the smell of him made me want to vomit. After the pregnancy I wasn't grossed out by him anymore, but the kissing just never really came back for me. Are you pregnant? Has he just gotten really comfortable with you and is not shaving, brushing teeth, showering, etc... I have let my husband know that that stuff is really important to me, and he knows that if he even wants a chance, he has to clean up and treat me with the same respect he did in the beginning of our relationship. Don't give up on your relationship.
2006-09-15 15:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness NO. You should LOVE being intimate with him. Has he hurt your feelings or something to make you have a change of heart? I have been married for 10 years and still melt at my husband's kisses.
2006-09-15 14:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not normal. Try to figure out what it is about being intimate that makes your skin crawl and fix the problem.
2006-09-15 14:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
EEEWWWW - that kinda happened with me - kissing to me, is very intimate - its gotta be just rite - i didn't mind having sex with my husband, it was just the kissing - deep down i think i wasn't in love with him - i eventually divorced him - don't think i will ever marry again - i like the newness of a relationship - the kissing stage - the butterflies stage - you gotta do what will make you happy - if i'm not feeling someone, i'm not kissing them.
2006-09-15 15:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, because I am in the same situation. It has been that way a lot longer than 3 years and if you keep going you will want to find someone else and be tempted more and more to cheat on him. Don't be dumb like me, leave now and find out what you want!!
2006-09-15 14:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by jpet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Doesn't sound normal and u need to find out what's up with that. Could be that u have fallen out of love with him and don't feel the same about him. Perhaps u both should try marriage counseling to find out what your issues are.
2006-09-15 14:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, something must have happened to make you feel this way. You need to reevaluate whether you want to be with him for the rest of your life if you have this issue.
2006-09-15 14:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. do u mean ur pores or just the crawling?
2006-09-15 14:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by Miss-Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's even more normal to blow chunks. Keep trying. When you get douche chills, then consider yourself normal
2006-09-15 14:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋