Did it help you become a responsible adult?
It sure helped me.
2006-09-15 07:37:57 · 20 answers · asked by St. Anthony of Y!Answers 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My parents did not beat me but they spanked me. And yes it made me become a responsible adult today. People who dont spank their children have problems and in t he long run their children will run their lives. Trust me.
2006-09-15 07:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by sweethonesty1699 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents didn't beat me. They gave me the odd smack, but to me, beating sounds like someone is trying to do harm. I am now a responsible adult with respect for my superiors and elders. A lot more than I can say for the spoiled brats these days. They have no consequences to their actions, so misbehaving to the point of crime is not unusual. I am all for the odd corrective smack, no beating though. The point is to enforce obedience not make the child an object of abuse. I know there are going to be people who come on here and say that by giving your child a smack encourages violence, but that is theory. Society is as violent (if not more) as it has ever been and the people responsible for a large portion of that violence are kids who have grown up not being corrected by their parents and are now expecting to get away with all types of things.
2006-09-15 14:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by inuvikrx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To my way of thinking most children are, good most of the time some children are not so good most of the time. I was spanked as I was growing up and I have to admit I earned all of them. Spanking was reserved for very serious offenses. So they were not everyday occurrences. Because of the nature of my offenses I always knew that if I was caught I was getting a licking. Because I am a very poor liar I usually got caught and got that licking. Today I am a grandmother and I paddled my children on occasions that warrented it never for petty offenses only the big ones. I am a responsible adult and I raised responsible adults and better yet they are raising responsible young people.
2006-09-15 14:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother & I were not "BEAT" but we did get spankings, just as my boys did when they misbehaved. But with them, they no longer needed spankings by the time they were 3 yrs. old. They "knew" by then that mom & dad WOULD back up what they said & NOT count, give time outs or just threaten & NOT follow through.
My brother was like that when we were kids. Me on the other hand, I was & am very hard headed. It took my longer to get it through my head that there WOULD BE CONSEQUENCES FOR MY ACTIONS!!!
Yes, I do belive that it helped my brother & I become more responsible adults. We are both in happy & fulfilled marriages. Our kids are healthy, happy, polite, kind, sensitive, loving & even at their ages.... RESPONSIBLE!!!!
2006-09-15 14:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They didn't beat me, but they sure spanked the crap out of me on more than one occasion....and I can't say now it was a bad thing. I grew up respecting my parents and other adults and I have never broken the law or gotten into any trouble.
Too bad parents now a days are too scared to spank....kids need it these days!!!
2006-09-15 14:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by deepadot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Got the belt a few times - it made me think twice. But think seriously about punishment with kids before you do anything. It depends on the child and the seriousness of what they did; and if you feel that the punishment fits the crime. But there are no second chances with kids. Whatever you do - they remember for life. Sometimes kids just like to flex their muscles too.
2006-09-15 14:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by NONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally dont agree with the way your so casual with the word beat. there are children out there who get seriously beat for absolutly no reason at all. i was one of them, as were my brothers. it is not a joke nor is it funny. it is not a jean that is inheretid. children grow into adults and so the cycle continues. maybe you should go to a womens homeless shelter and ask them the same question?
2006-09-15 14:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by tara h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. I never got into trouble and graduated from college on time and was ale to support myself.
But I wouldn't say "beat". I had some spankings when I was under 10. "Beat" implies flying off the handle on the spot, and using fists or weapons. Spankings were more deliberate in that you had to sit in your room and wait for them to come and get it over with.
2006-09-15 14:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by electroberry1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
she did with a belt, sumtimes a slipper and of course her own hand but i dont think that that's what makes u a good adult, i think its the actual RAISING up tht helps. How she spoke to u and the advice she gave you. Because I can tell u now that there are lots of children who get beaten and who are very disobeidient.
I think that being strict does not just mean smacking ur child, i think it also mean teaching them to respect u!
By smacking them, ur not really teaching them how to respect u...ur just teaching them to be scared of u.
I hope u understand what im saying........
2006-09-15 14:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by Shalla-Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't spank my kids, and they were and are a joy! No teenage rebellion or no need to worry about where they were or what they were doing...Relationship was built on mutual respect.. Now, My son is such an excellent dad.... I take pride in that...
2006-09-15 14:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by Chetco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋